Obaa Yaa
Mummy dislikes my boyfriend who feeds me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 17 years old and an apprentice seamstress. I have a boyfriend who is 22 years old and a mechanic.
Obaa Yaa, the problem is that my mother does not like this boy at all.
She says he is a rascal. Meanwhile, it is this same rascal who has paid for my dressmaking course and feeds me two times in a day.
He even gives me money for transportation since our place at Abeka is far from where I am currently learning.
I am disturbed because my mother shows her dislike openly to this boy. I am afraid he will just leave me and I will lose all these benefits. What should I do?
Comfort,
Abeka -,Accra.
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Dear Comfort,
If your boyfriend is truly a rascal, then your mother has a point.
She is seeing it from the angle that he might put you into trouble one day, irrespective of the things he has been doing for you.
However, if you truly believes he is genuine and loves you, I would suggest you talk to your mother in a calm manner and explain things to her.
You can politely ask your mother to give him time and study him slowly so that she would realise that he is actually not the person she perceives him to be.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
