Obaa Yaa
My teacher thinks I am evil
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 16 years old and in Senior High School. I see myself as the unhappiest person in the world because of the attitude of my teacher.
He has just tagged me as a notorious boy and dismisses anything I do as foolish.
I am not a bad person like my teacher thinks. I have tried many times to let him know I am good but he does not want to listen to me.
I want to stop schooling because this teacher is not encouraging me at all.
Bob R.D.K,
Kumasi.
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Dear Bob,
I would not encourage you to stop schooling just because your teacher thinks you are bad.
I can imagine how it feels for a teacher to see you as not being a good student and trashing everything you do.
However, giving up on your education would be a defeatist attitude on your part.
If you know you are a good boy, then continue exhibiting your good qualities and one day your good works will advertise themselves so strongly that your teacher will have a completely different opinion about you.
In any case, you should not expect everybody to like you.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have just found out that the woman I want to marry was raped about two months ago but she told me nothing about it.
It was a cousin of mine who lives in her area who told me about it. When I asked her about it, she broke down and said it was true but she was afraid I would leave her.
But Obaa Yaa, I feel very hurt by what she has done and we are no longer on talking terms.
I want to hold on with the marriage, so I have even stopped going for marriage counselling. Can I trust a woman who would hide such a thing from me?
Kersi,
Osu.
Dear Kersi,
Rape is a very traumatic thing for women and most of them remain silent over the matter and do not go to the police because of the shame and humiliation.
They also get stigmatised by society.
It is an outright violation of a person’s privacy and dignity. What your girlfriend need now is your love and support.
Most often, women get raped through no fault of theirs but dread to tell their partners for fear of being rejected because they have been touched by another man.
I suggest you go back to your marriage counselors and discuss this problem with them.
They should be able to counsel the two of you through this crises.
I believe when you get over this, it will strengthen your love and support for each other and better prepare you for other issues that may arise in your marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am very angry with my landlord. He impregnated my niece and when I took the matter up, he has asked us to leave his house.
He has refused to pay for her upkeep and I have also refused to pay for the rest of the rent for the last year of my agreement with him.
I do not intend leaving my current accommodation. My landlord has threatened to kill me. My wife is also putting pressure on me that we should leave. What should I do?
A.B,
Bogoso.
Dear A.B
If your landlord has impregnated your niece then he must be made to bear the financial responsibility that comes with it.
Seek legal advice on how he should care for your niece and at the same time work out an accommodation arrangement since your agreement with him has not yet expired.
I hope your landlord would reason with you and make it possible for you to stay there. However, if he does not, you will need to report his threat of death to the police and begin to look for alternative accommodation.
But whether the accommodation issue is sorted or not, your landlord must take care of that pregnancy and child to be born even if it means taking him to court.
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