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Why should waking up at 2 a.m. to cook for your husband be a topic?

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Eh! been a while since I did this because I don’t want any teen, adolescent, teenager, young lady, or woman to use it as a tool for manipulating somebody’s son about their relationship or marriage.
I have evidence to prove some of you use my writeups about marriage and relationships to emotionally blackmail your partners. Please don’t do that. Just use it as a learning guide or ignore it if you don’t agree okay?
….. but wait is it my eyes reading and ears listening to some young girls and women ( married & single ) saying “It is out of place if a husband wakes his wife up at 2 am to cook for him.”
For me these past few years, have opened my eyes to the sharp contrast between the reality of believing most of us portray on social media versus what we actually are or what we practically do or can do for mere relationships talk more of marriage.
So my teens, adolescents, teenagers, young ladies, and women please have a mind of your own, you believe what you see written or said on social media at your own risk.
When issues about relationships or marriage pop up here. Let’s take our time.
Ask yourself will I do it or not or it’s because I have to join the bandwagon?
Ask yourself, if you are confronted with a situation like that, what will you do away from social media?
Sometimes we write for likes and comments but behind closed doors willingly do the opposite or the unthinkable when it comes to relationships and marriage.
Whereas some people who write things like this, do as they have written with their full chest off social media.
Sometimes, we sit on social media and rubbish marriage or relationship so bad but we are the same people still married and we are the same people praying and patiently waiting to be married or aggressively and desperately wanting to be married. May Allah help all of us. He looks to the intention.
But In all honestly- what is wrong with cooking for your husband at 2 a.m.? I will only have a problem when it becomes an everyday thing. But if not why not?
Isn’t it the same as a pregnant woman with serious cravings waking her husband at odd hours to go get her something to quench her cravings? Sometimes away from home?
Isn’t it the same as, some of us waking up at dawn to get suhoor done for ourselves or our spouses?
Isn’t it the same as taking care of a sick husband’s needs at odd hours?
Isn’t it the same as waking up at dawn to prepare for occasional or festive meals? Christmas/ Sallah/ Easter/ Birthdays/ Marriage/ Naming/ Funeral etc?
Isn’t it the same as staying up late to feed newborn babies because of their high demand for feeding at odd hours? Ask every new mum about this.
Isn’t it the same as staying online chatting through Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, IG, TikTok, iMessage, WhatsApp, messenger etc. or on a phone call with your boyfriends, ex-boyfriends, finances, husbands, ex-husbands, sugar daddies etc. even your friends?
Some of you single ladies even use your hard-earned money to cook for men to eat for free. Persistently call them and wait for them to come and eat at odd hours but you are here ranting.
I can go on and on with a lot of real-time examples but let me leave it here. My only advice is if you are not married yet, take it easy. And even if you are married too, please because you are still married making those who admire and want to join the institution for the sake of Allah think a certain kind of way is not the best. How about telling them all the other “unthinkable” “unexpected” or “unassumed” and “unseen” things you do for your husband or marriage? Nobody will beat you if you do it or not. It is a matter known to you and your God.
A career woman like myself, God knows I cook in bulk for my household, I have mastered the art of cooking a lot of meals in one day to stock up unless it is a dire situation I doubt my husband will wake me up at 2 am to cook fresh meal for him. And if he craves his favourite outside food from his favourite rice, waakye or Jollof joint at such a time, why not? He goes to buy it.
Know the person you want to build a marriage life with. Though there are certain situations you can’t predict. A lot of red flags are usually ignored by most of us because we cloud our judgements of who our future partners will be because of the few things we see about them from the outside. There are so many layers to every human being, time, circumstances and reality uncover them and until you live with a person under one roof, you can’t not really know or see them clearly because we humans also pretend a lot and act according to what we get or want from the other person. Yes, you can not fully know a person no matter the years.
Marriage is an act of worship and an act of service to mankind. Don’t let anyone make you feel less or great. That validation is in ALLAH’s hands. Do it if you can just make sure it’s something which wouldn’t affect your well-being emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually, morally, socially and mentally. The Ball is in your court. May Allah make it easy for all of us. Ameen
Also leave it at the back of your mind that, marriage humbles the married sometimes. The things you run your mouth over can be the things you will end up overly doing.
Finally, it is okay if we don’t share opinions on every trending issue on Facebook. Also waking up to cook at 2 am or not doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage. Pray you are married to a God-fearing partner. Some women haven’t or wouldn’t do this but have a successful marriage and on the other hand, some women do that and continue to do that but their marriage is not successful. We all just need the God factor and God’s grace and must learn to be good humans. Treat each other well and do for others what we want to be done for us.
By Adiza Kuburah Ibrahim
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Ahanta Heritage Month: Diplomats, youth tour forts, Cape Three Points and historic sites

Ghana’s south-western coastline became the meeting point of history, diplomacy and cultural heritage on Saturday, July 26, 2026, as foreign diplomats, a senior UNESCO official and members of the international community embarked on a historic tour of Ahanta West’s centuries-old forts and landmarks during the 2026 Ahanta Heritage Month celebrations.
The Ahanta Heritage Month spanned throughout the whole of July 2026.
The tour, one of the flagship events of the 2026 Ahanta Heritage Month celebrations, brought together ambassadors, traditional leaders, heritage enthusiasts, and a vibrant contingent of students and young people from schools across the Ahanta West Municipality.
The intergenerational and multicultural gathering transformed the excursion into a powerful journey of remembrance, education and cultural diplomacy.
Organised by the Member of Parliament for Ahanta West, Mavis Kuukua Bissue, the carefully curated itinerary took participants to the historic Fort Gross Friedrichsburg at Princes Town, the iconic Cape Three Points, and Fort Batenstein in Butre before concluding with a courtesy call on the Chief of Butre at his palace.
The tour began at Fort Gross Friedrichsburg, one of the least-known but most historically significant European forts on Ghana’s coastline.
Constructed in the late seventeenth century by the Brandenburg African Company, the imposing fortress remains one of the few colonial forts on the Gold Coast built by a German state, rather than the Portuguese, Dutch or British powers that dominated much of the coast.
Perched majestically above Princes Town, the fort offers sweeping views of the Atlantic Ocean and stands as a silent witness to centuries of trade, diplomacy and conflict.
From Princes Town, the delegation travelled to Cape Three Points, mainland Ghana’s southernmost tip, where participants enjoyed panoramic views from the historic lighthouse while taking refreshments against the breathtaking backdrop of the Gulf of Guinea.
Renowned for its dramatic coastline, pristine rainforest and maritime significance, the location offered visitors a glimpse into the natural landscape that shaped centuries of seafaring and commerce along Ghana’s western coast.
The final stop carried profound historical symbolism. At Fort Batenstein in Butre, visitors explored the former administrative headquarters from which Dutch colonial authorities managed their relations with the Ahanta Kingdom.




The fort remains forever linked to one of the defining moments in Ahanta history, the resistance and subsequent execution of Otumfuo Nana Badu Bonsu II in 1838.
The delegation concluded its visit with a traditional courtesy call on the Chief of Butre, honouring the customs of the historic Ahanta state.
The heritage tour attracted an impressive international delegation, highlighting growing global interest in Ghana’s historical role in the transatlantic slave trade and its enduring connections with the African diaspora.
Among the distinguished participants were Barbados’ High Commissioner to Ghana, H.E. Juliette Bynoe-Sutherland, Suriname’s Ambassador to Ghana, H.E. Fidelia Graand-Galon, and UNESCO’s Representative to Ghana, Edmond Moukala N’Gouemo, whose organisation continues to champion the preservation of Ghana’s forts and castles as World Heritage Sites and enduring symbols of shared human history.
Also joining the delegation was the Divisional Chief of Agona, together with heritage officials who guided participants through the historical significance of each location.
Interwoven with the diplomatic delegation were busloads of schoolchildren, students and youth from the Ahanta West Municipality, many visiting the forts for the very first time as well as members of Ghana’s international community.
Their participation underscored the organisers’ commitment to making heritage education accessible to younger generations while fostering greater cross-cultural understanding.
The sequence of destinations was deliberately designed to tell the complete story of Ahanta’s engagement with European powers from the establishment of fortified trading posts in the seventeenth century, through the strategic maritime importance of Cape Three Points, to the tragic events surrounding the resistance of Nana Badu Bonsu II at Butre.
The tour also served as a prelude to the unveiling of a bronze statue in honour of the revered Ahanta king at Agona Nkwanta the following day, providing visiting dignitaries with valuable historical context before participating in the official commemorative ceremonies.
For Mavis Kuukua Bissue, the driving force behind the Ahanta Heritage Month initiative, the heritage tour represents a broader vision of repositioning Ahanta West as one of Ghana’s premier heritage tourism destinations.
By showcasing the municipality’s remarkable collection of European forts alongside globally recognised sites such as Cape Coast and Elmina Castles, the initiative seeks not only to preserve an important chapter of Ghana’s history but also to strengthen cultural and historical ties with nations across the African diaspora whose stories remain inseparably linked to this historic coastline.
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Wa West MP calls for calm, impartial probe into suspect’s death

The Member of Parliament (MP) for Wa West, Mr Peter Lanchene Toobu, has called for calm and urged the Ghana Police Service to conduct a thorough and impartial investigation into the death of Abu Tijani, popularly known as “master one”, who reportedly died while in police custody.
The MP made the call at a press briefing in Wa on Thursday, describing the incident as one that had generated public concern and underscoring the need for transparency to maintain public confidence.
Mr Toobu said the death of Abu Tijani, who had been declared wanted in connection with the protracted Lassia Tuolu-Kendeu conflict and was arrested on July 25, 2026, should be investigated in accordance with the laws of Ghana.
He also appealed to the Office of the Attorney-General and Ministry of Justice to ensure the fair, impartial and expeditious prosecution of all cases arising from the conflict, stressing that justice must be served without fear or favour because “crime is individualistic and not communal.”
The MP recounted that the communal conflict, which erupted on June 15, 2024, claimed three lives, left several people injured, destroyed properties and disrupted the long-standing peaceful coexistence between the two communities.
He explained that although security agencies restored calm and a mediation process led by the Upper West Regional Minister and Chairman of the Regional Security Council (REGSEC), Charles Lwanga Puozuing, had made progress, the process suffered a setback after two young men from Bakpateng near Lassia Tuolu were murdered in Kendeu on November 23, 2025.
According to Mr Toobu, police arrested 10 suspects following the incident, with nine later granted bail while one remained in custody in connection with the alleged murders. Further investigations subsequently identified additional suspects, including Abu Tijani, who had evaded arrest until his apprehension in July this year.
The MP said he visited Wechiau on Wednesday to assess the security situation, where he met the Paramount Chief and his Council of Elders, received security briefings and inspected a house that had been set ablaze by some youth during the disturbances.
Expressing condolences to families who had lost relatives in the conflict, Mr Toobu said the communities should not continue to lose their young people to violence, adding that poverty, disease, unemployment, deprivation and illiteracy remained the real enemies confronting the area.
He urged residents to refrain from spreading unverified information, inflammatory comments and hate speech, particularly on social media, warning that rumours could further inflame tensions.
Mr Toobu further appealed to the factions involved in the conflict to return to the mediation table under the auspices of REGSEC, saying lasting peace could only be achieved through dialogue, compromise and reconciliation.
He also called on the people of Lassia Tuolu, Kendeu, Wechiau and neighbouring communities to cooperate with security agencies and reject reprisal attacks, while commending the security personnel for their professionalism and sacrifice in protecting lives and property.
The MP appealed to traditional authorities, religious leaders, women, youth groups and civil society organisations to become ambassadors of peace and work together to restore trust and promote lasting peace in Wa West.
A statement issued by the Upper West Regional Police Command on Tuesday said the suspect, had been on its wanted list after allegedly evading arrest on May 11, 2026, and going into hiding despite appeals through the Paramount Chief of Wechau and community elders for him to assist investigations.
Police said he resisted arrest when he was eventually apprehended, injuring two officers before being subdued.
During interrogation, the suspect allegedly admitted involvement in the case and told investigators that the two victims were initially buried in Wechau before he and his alleged accomplices exhumed and reburied the bodies across the Black Volta River in Burkina Faso to conceal the crime.
Police later escorted him to the alleged original burial site, about three kilometres west of Wechau, but an excavation yielded no human remains. He reportedly maintained that the bodies had been moved days after the initial burial.
The statement said that while investigators were later escorting the suspect to identify the location of one of his alleged accomplices along the Nakore Road, he complained of a severe headache.
The operation was halted and he was rushed to the Seventh Day Adventist (SDA) Hospital in Wa, where he was admitted at about 1:00 p.m. but was pronounced dead at 4:37 p.m. despite receiving medical treatment.
BY GORDON WELLU




