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7 things Easter story teaches about marriage, relationships
This time of the year, we reflect quite a bit on the Easter story—the story of Christ’s betrayal, His sacrifice, His death, and ultimately, the Resurrection that changed the course of history and mankind’s relationship with the Creator.
But what does this have to do with marriage or relationships?
If marriage or relationships were meant to reflect the image of God, then there is no better example than Christ, the living embodiment of God’s love.
Through His sacrifice, He showed that love for each other and even for Him was not enough.
Here are seven things we can learn about marriage or relationships from Easter.
1. Betrayal can come from those we love and trust the most.
Jesus knew this all too well. Judas-one of the 12, the few in Jesus’ inner circle—betrayed Him by turning Him in to the chief priests.
Betrayal hurts. When it comes from someone we love and trust, it cuts all the deeper. And some of your deepest pain will likely come from your spouse or the person closest to you.
No marriage or relationship is immune. But it is your response to the offense has to reflect the faith and trust we have in Christ.
2. We are not above betraying the ones we love
Peter was passionate about his relationship with Christ. When Jesus told Peter he would disown Him three times before the rooster crowed, Peter just could not fathom it. “Even if I must die with you, I will not deny you!” Peter told Him. Yet, before the night had ended, Peter “wept bitterly” after he denied His Savior not once, but three times (Matthew 26:34-75).
Matthew 26:41 tells us “The spirit indeed is willing. Sometimes it is unintentional, words often rush out before my brain can catch up. Other times, the words that cut deep leave your lips without fully assessing the damage they will cause. None of us are above hurting our spouse or friends, no matter how much we try.
3. Others won’t believe your marriage/ relationship can be saved
As they gazed upon the suffering Christ, the chief priests mocked Him. “He saved others; he cannot save himself,” they said. “Let the Christ, the King of Israel, come down now from the cross that we may see and believe” (Mark 15:31- 32). The sad irony of their words is that because they refused to believe, they would never see their own salvation on that cross.
Most cultures are a brutal place to try to save a dying marriage. Not only do an increasing number of people not believe in the lasting power of marriage, many will gladly take a front seat to watch your marriage die. They will mock you and your spouse and say divorce is a better option.
Protect your relationship by surrounding yourself with people who encourage your marriage rather than dragging it down.
4. Marriage/relationship takes sacrifice.
Jesus knew what was coming. He prayed in Gethsemane, “My father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will” (Matthew 26:39). Later, before He was nailed to the cross, “they offered him wine to drink, mixed with gall, but when he tasted it, he would not drink it” (Matthew 27:34). The wine concoction offered to Jesus was one typically offered to slightly ease the pain of those condemned to death. Jesus refused to numb even a fraction of the sacrifice He was about to make.
It sometimes seems like a no-brainer that we would give our lives for our spouses. But what about in the day to day? Are you willing to sacrifice your comfort, your preferences, even being right for your spouse?
On a much smaller level, sacrificing yourself for your spouse is putting their best interests above your own through a series of choices that can seem insignificant.
5. Marriage/relationship takes forgiveness.
Jesus’ sacrifice guaranteed God’s forgiveness for those who love Him. Even through the pain of the cross, He called out on behalf of those who crucified Him. “Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do’” (Luke 23:34).
Forgiveness is not just something we have been given, it is also something we, as followers of Christ, are told to do. In Colossians, Paul says, “As the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (3:13). Your spouse is going to mess up. A lot. You are too, perhaps even more. A good marriage involves a lot of asking for, giving, and receiving forgiveness.
6. Marriage/relationship takes faith
After the tomb was found empty, Jesus appeared to His disciples. Thomas was not there. And when the others told him they had seen the Lord, Thomas was skeptical.
“Unless I see in his hands the mark of the nails, and place my finger into the mark of the nails, and place my hand into his side, I will never believe.” A week later, Thomas found himself face-to-face with Jesus, who offered his hands to Thomas. “Do not disbelieve,” Jesus told him, “but believe” (John 20:24-29).
There have been times it was a struggle to find the good in your marriage or relationship. It was like trying to find a match in the darkness. Most at times you will not see things getting any better. Holding on when you want to let go takes faith. Even a little.
7. We all need a Saviour
The apostle John recorded the last words Jesus spoke on the cross to be, “It is finished” (John 19:30). Finished was His atonement for our sins. No one else could have paid the heavy debt we carried but the Son of God.
Marriage/relationship is a blessing, but make no mistake, it is hard at times. You and your spouse can not do it on your own strength and determination.
Much like the criminal hanging next to Jesus who said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom” (Luke 23:42), you need to recognise the need for a Savior. And much like the disciples who were standing before their risen Lord, you need Him to breathe life into you (and into your marriage) with the Holy Spirit (John 20:22).
Your spouse needs Jesus as much as you do—no more, no less. Remembering this can help you view him or her differently. —familylife. com
Imagine another frustrating argument with your spouse, where both of you’re not listening to each other, just re-stating your own personal interests. You feel frustrated and unable to find common ground. It is disheartening when you both feel like a nuclear reactor is taking over your couple life. You begin to question your spouse’s character, and this is not the happy marriage you envisioned.
This topic is not just for couples on the verge of a separation. It’s for anyone in a relationship looking to improve understanding and have more productive conversations for healthy conflict resolution instead of constant arguments.
Whether dealing with regular disputes over household chores or deep disagreements about parenting, there are several strategies that will help deescalate and manage conflict so you can talk with respect and not anger, creating a safe space for you both at home.
Navigating relationship turbulence might seem daunting, but conflict resolution does not have to be.
Understanding conflict in marriage
Dealing with conflicts can feel like untangling a tightly knotted rope. The first step in learning how to resolve any conflict is to understand what conflict really is. Though it can feel unsettling, conflict is a natural part of any relationship. It arises from differences, whether they are small preferences or deeply held values. You both cannot have the exact same mind after all, but it does not mean that your spouse is the bad guy.
If not properly addressed, these clashes can cause hurt, confusion, and distance. However, when managed well, conflict can lead to growth, understanding, and deeper intimacy, strengthening the bonds that hold your marriage together.
When talking about marital conflict, it is important to recognise the types. Some conflicts are solvable and revolve around negotiable issues like dividing chores. Others are perpetual, rooted in fundamental differences in personality or lifestyle. These perpetual conflicts can feel like an unmovable wall.
There is not one solution to conflict resolution in marriage. As we move forward, we’ll focus on how to untangle the knots of conflict in your marriage without causing damage to the threads that hold your relationship together.
Aside from the basic principle of never going to bed angry, there are some strategies that can be applied to resolve conflict in your marriage effectively, promoting reconciliation and reinforcing trust.
Healthy conflict resolution strategies in marriage
Can you recall the last time a passionate discussion with your spouse suddenly turned into an argument? These moments can be tough, reminding us how tricky marital conflict can be. But conflicts do not mean the relationship is in trouble.
The key difference between a sinking ship and smooth sailing is how we handle these disagreements. With effective strategies for conflict resolution in marriage, you can turn potential storms into opportunities for understanding and growth.
At the heart of conflict resolution is the art of communication. Start with a time out, a genuine apology, and switch from a language of accusation and defense to one of understanding and empathy. This shift is key to resolving problems in marriages.
When conflict escalates, our instinctive response is often to protect ourselves, either by lashing out or shutting down. However, these defensive strategies only create more distance.
Effective communication focuses on tackling the problem together instead of battling each other. This change does not happen overnight. It takes patience, practice, and some discomfort as you move beyond familiar patterns. You have to remind yourself that this relationship is worth fighting for.
But once you start adopting this new way of communicating, you will find it opens doors to intimacy and understanding that were previously hidden by conflict.
Relationship transformation through communication
Over time, these new communication strategies transformed their relationship. They learned to approach conflicts with empathy, asking questions like, “Can you help me understand how you’re feeling?” amidst all the issues. This change in mindset led to more meaningful dialogues.
Silence was replaced with open discussions, and bitterness gave way to empathy. Caroline and David found profound satisfaction and peace in their relationship, realising that understanding and listening were the keys to their renewed connection. Their marriage, once teetering on the edge, was now filled with genuine communication and mutual respect.
Practical steps to resolve conflict in marriage
- Reflect and recognise
The first step in fixing conflicts in marriage is to reflect and recognise the existence of the conflict. Ignoring issues won’t make them go away; they can grow into larger problems. Acknowledging the conflict allows you to address it constructively.
Recognising conflict as a chance for growth can transform your perspective. Instead of seeing disagreements as negative, view them as opportunities to learn and strengthen your bond. This mindset shift paves the way for open, honest discussions that lead to deeper understanding and a more harmonious relationship.
- Prioritise understanding
Make it a priority to understand your partner’s viewpoint, even if you don’t agree. Put pride aside and listen to understand, not to argue. This approach fosters empathy and shows your partner that you value their feelings.
Listening without judgment can defuse tension and open up a path to resolution. By prioritising understanding, you create a foundation for productive discussions and mutual respect, which are essential for resolving any conflict effectively.
- Pay attention to your words
When discussing the issue, be mindful of your words. Avoid blaming and use “I” statements to express how you feel. This approach prevents your partner from feeling attacked and keeps the conversation focused on your feelings.
Using “I” statements like “I feel hurt when…” can help communicate your perspective without assigning blame. This can lead to a more open and constructive dialogue, making it easier to resolve the conflict and understand each other better.
- An artful apology
When you’re in the wrong, learn to apologise sincerely. A heartfelt apology goes beyond just saying “sorry.” It’s about accepting your role in the conflict and showing a genuine desire to make things right.
A sincere apology involves acknowledging the hurt you’ve caused and expressing regret. This can help heal wounds and rebuild trust. By apologising artfully, you demonstrate accountability and commitment to improving the relationship, paving the way for reconciliation and growth.
- Solution-oriented approach
Focus on finding a resolution that benefits both of you. Conflicts in a marriage aren’t a competition; they’re about finding solutions that strengthen your relationship.
By working together to identify mutually beneficial outcomes, you can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth. This approach fosters collaboration and ensures that both partners feel valued and heard, leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.
- Seek professional help
If conflicts keep escalating despite your efforts, consider seeking professional help from therapists or counselors. Professional guidance can offer clarity and help initiate the healing process effectively.
Therapists and counselors provide a neutral perspective and can teach you strategies to manage and resolve conflicts. Their expertise can be invaluable in improving communication, understanding, and overall relationship health. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help when needed.
Remember, these steps are not a magical, quick fix. But committed and persistent practice can bring about meaningful changes in your relationship. Be patient with yourself and your partner; resolving conflicts and reaching harmony will take time and effort from both parties.
Source: lissyabrahams.com
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HIV Infection: Health Director Cautions Adolescents and Couples Against Unhealthy Sexual Behaviours
Mr. George Agyemang, the Acting Wenchi Municipal Director of Health in the Bono Region, has cautioned adolescents to refrain from engaging in unprotected sex and having multiple sexual partners.
He said HIV infection was recording alarming figures in the municipality and urged couples to remain faithful and avoid extra-marital affairs to protect themselves against new HIV infections.
Mr. Agyemang gave the advice while speaking at the 2026 review meeting of the directorate at Wenchi on the theme: “Stakeholder’s Engagement and Efforts in Achieving Universal Health Coverage.”
He revealed that the municipality currently has 2,153 persons living with HIV and AIDS, with the HIV and AIDS prevalence standing at 2.5 per cent, ranking it the second highest in the Bono Region.
Mr. Agyemang further indicated that HIV infections do not discriminate, noting that people who engage in promiscuous lifestyles expose themselves to the virus. He urged those who could not control their sexual desires to always use condoms.
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