Obaa Yaa
What should I do now?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
From my perspective, I can say with conviction that finding a lover is indeed a tough one. Thinking of who to date and marry drives me nuts every day because people keep changing over time.
There is this girl in my area who I have been ‘crushing’ on for some time now. I consulted an elderly person in my area on my decision to propose love to this girl and he took me along the lines of approaching her. Everything turned out to be sailing smoothly until I got bounced.
Sadly, I said to myself not to approach her or any lady again but then I gave it a second thought.
Should I try again, maybe this time round my luck will shine or I should just forget about her and move on?
Kelvin Boakye, Osu
Dear Kelvin,
You did not mention the reason the lady in question gave when she ‘bounced’ you. In the absence of that, I would give a generic advice to you.
If her reasons are not religious or she being married or dating, you could give it a second try. There’s no harm in trying at love the second time. But that notwithstanding, you could offer to be an acquaintance and take it slowly.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
