Obaa Yaa
I miss my ex
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Nobody can tell what the end would be that is why I try my best to tolerate anyone who comes my way but it seems most people turn to use my leniency for my weakness.
Reminiscing the memories we shared together always gives me goose bumps and this has always been a blast from my past. How I wish we were still together but the harm has already been done.
I loved this girl with my whole heart but all this while she took me for a joke. I was later informed by a friend that, my girl is cheating on me with another guy which I didn’t want to believe because I trusted her so much.
Rumours about her cheating on me kept making waves as days elapse to the extent that I was advised by my parents to quit the relationship but I never listened.
Out of the blue, my girlfriend introduced me to her guy on my birthday which almost got me to lose my senses. Currently, I am okay but the thought keeps coming to mind and makes me miss her. What should I do to get rid of this because, I don’t want to go into that situation again
Samuel Sawovi, Koforidua
Dear Samuel,
Well, the game is over with this particular lady, although it is normal for you to keep missing your ex-partner. Try to move on.
Doing that would require you to keep busy with productive activities like sports and make new positive friends. Do not try to console yourself by entering into a new relationship.
Use this time to build yourself and prepare for you will surely find love again. This time when everything goes well it will stay. Good luck.
My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.
Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.
I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?
Kwesi,
Suhum
Dear Kwesi,
Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.
You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.
If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.
Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.
Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Before we got married five years ago, my husband told me that his former wife left him shortly after he lost his job following a financial scandal which rocked the company.
But thanks be to God that the court cleared him and ordered the company to pay him for the five years he stayed at home for wrongful dismissal.
As soon as this ex-wife heard that the company had complied with the court’s orders and paid him, she shamelessly declared that she was making a comeback and has vowed to kick me out of my matrimonial home at all cost.
She promised to hire ‘machomen’ to throw my things out of the house and was prepared to bear the consequence for that action.
Even though my husband has assured me that this would never happen, her ex is bent on disturbing my peace.
What should I do?
Adzo,
Tafo.
Dear Bertha,
The lady is threatening to use violence against you. That’s constitutes a breach of the law and she must be reported to the police for issuing those threats.
However, I will advise you to discuss it with your husband so that you are not seen as acting entirely on your own.
As a matter of fact, it is only the police that can handle this matter professionally and must be involved, unless of course your husband talks to his ex-wife to stop harassing you. So have a good discussion with your husband about the matter. All the best.
