Relationship
Some tips for surviving stressful experience
If you’ve ever been through a highly stressful event or series of events, you’ve been through a traumatic experience. A feeling of helplessness, horror, and in some cases, the challenges of a serious injury (or the threat of one) are common after these events. There are many ways you can help yourself get through it.
Don’t isolate yourself
Reach out to friends and family. If others have had the same experience, talk to them. They may be having some of the same feelings that you are. Open the lines of communication as soon as possible after your traumatic event. It’s an important part of your recovery.
Seek professional help
The stress that comes with a traumatic event can be crippling. Sadness, fear, grief, and depression can take hold. If your feelings in the first month after the event are so severe that they interfere with your regular life, find a mental health expert in your area who can help.
Join a support group
Talking over what you’re going through with others who’ve had the same experience, or are still going through it, can be helpful after a trauma. Not only will groups like these lift you up, they can give you tips on how to deal with what’s happening. Your doctor or mental health expert can point you to local support groups, or you can find one online.
Face it (don’t avoid it)
As tempting as it may be to try to ignore or forget a traumatic event, a key ingredient in recovery is learning to be OK with your memories of it and the things that trigger them without trying to avoid them. Facing your feelings head-on is important because you want to be able to take care of them in a way that helps you move forward.
Exercise
Get out and move. Experts say it’s one of the most effective ways to handle the aftereffects of a traumatic event. Deep breathing, gentle stretching, and walking are all good choices. If you want your exercise plan to be a bit more challenging, that can help, too. Don’t force things, though. If you’re tired, it’s OK to rest.
Listen to your body
Your body (and mind) will tell you what to do to heal. Eat healthy meals. Rest when you get a chance. Do things that make you happy. Take a bath. Work toward a regular sleep schedule where you go to bed and wake up at about the same time each night in a cool, dark, quiet room. Read. Do something with friends. Go for a nice stroll. Watch a ballgame. Go to a play. Whatever makes you feel good, take the time to treat yourself.
Source: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health
Relationship
Balancing professional goals and relationship expectations
In today’s fast-paced world, juggling a demanding career and a fulfilling relationship has become a significant challenge for many individuals.
The strain of professional life can often encroach on personal relationships, leading to stress, conflict, and potentially even the breakdown of the relationship.
However, with careful planning, open communication, and mutual support, it is possible to navigate these challenges and cultivate a healthy work-life synergy.
The challenges of balancing
career and love
One of the primary challenges of managing a career and a relationship is the competing demands on time and energy.
A demanding profession can require long hours, frequent travel, and high levels of stress, leaving little time or energy for a romantic partnership. This can lead to feelings of neglect, resentment, and frustration in the partner who feels overlooked. Furthermore, differing priorities and expectations can also create tension in the relationship.
For instance, one partner may prioritise career advancement and financial stability, while the other may value family and relationships above all else.
Strategies for harmony
So, how can individuals cultivate a harmonious balance between their professional and personal lives?
Here are some strategies that can help:
1. Effective communication: Open and honest communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. By sharing career goals, expectations, and needs with your partner, you can prevent misunderstandings and ensure that both partners are on the same page.
2. Boundary-setting: Establishing clear boundaries between work and personal life is essential to maintaining a healthy balance. Prioritise quality time with your partner and learn to say “no” to demands that encroach on personal time.
3. Quality time: Spending quality time with your partner is vital to nurturing a strong and healthy relationship. Whether it is a romantic getaway, a quiet evening at home, or a fun activity, make time for your partner and prioritise your relationship.
4. Mutual support: Supporting each other’s goals and aspirations is critical to a successful partnership. Encourage and support your partner’s career ambitions, even if they differ from your own.
5. Seeking help: Finally, do not be afraid to seek help when needed. Whether it is couples therapy, career coaching, or simply talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeking support can provide valuable guidance and relief.
The rewards of synergy
When individuals successfully navigate the challenges of managing their career and relationship, they can experience numerous benefits, including:
1. Increased fulfillment: A healthy work-life balance can lead to increased satisfaction and fulfillment in both personal and professional life.
2. Deeper connection: Effective communication and mutual support can foster a deeper connection and stronger bond between partners.
3. Improved productivity: By prioritising time and energy, individuals can become more productive and efficient in both their personal and professional lives.
4. Resilience: A strong and supportive partnership can provide a sense of security and resilience, helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with greater ease.
In conclusion, cultivating a harmonious balance between career and relationship requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and grow together.
By prioritising effective communication, boundary-setting, and mutual support, couples can build a strong and resilient partnership that supports their personal and professional aspirations.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
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Awakening of Umofia: Justice waits for no one
Greetings ! Greetings! Greetings my fellow Umofians! Eii! Eii! Eii! The silence has been long but not without purpose. Tell me, have you ever seen the leopard stalk its prey?
It does not pounce in haste. It watches. It listens. It lets the wind carry secrets before the final strike . And now? Ah ! I return not as a prodigal, but as the hawk that circled the land, patient, sharp-eyed, ready to tell what the land has shown me.
Eii! Eii! Eii! What a time to be alive in Umofia! The winds of change have not just whispered; they have howled, uprooting the complacent and shaking the mighty from their slumber. Ah, but what tales they carry! Tales of laughter, yes but also of lessons long overdue.
Tell me, my fellow Umofians, have you heard? Beneath the sacred baobab, where gossip dances like fireflies, there is now a chorus of sighs. The Akonta hunter who stalked the land as though he was invisible caught in his own snare! The great tree that stretched its branches wide, casting shadows over all. Ehe! Its roots now tremble, laid bare by the very earth it once claimed.
Ah! And what of the whispers that drift through the trees? The ones that speak of hands stretched across the seas, beckoning foreign plunderers to feast upon our forests and drink from our rivers as if it was theirs to take? Ehe! The people remember, and the land does not forgive.
Indeed, our elders say ‘when the tortoise parades in broad daylight, it forgets the hawk circles above’. And so, the one who dug his hands deep into the soil, pocketing gold as if it were pebbles, has been summoned to answer. EOCO’s halls do not echo with mercy only the weight of questions heavier than a sack of stolen wealth.
Ah, but the drama! They say ‘when the drummers grow too bold, even the chief forgets his dance.’ And what a spectacle it has been! The mighty, who once strutted through courtrooms as though they were palaces, now lie flat on their backs staring at hospital ceilings, wondering if the sickness in his chest came before or after the law’s tightening grip.
Let this be a warning, Umofia! The days of silent suffering are over. The sun rises for all, and no shadow no matter how deep can hide forever. Those who have woven webs of deceit will soon dangle from their own threads. The river remembers every disturbance in its current, and the people? Oh, the people remember even more.
Until next time,
Eyram, the tale bearer.
