Relationship

Some things ladies must avoid

Published

5 years ago

August 28, 2021

You focus too much on getting into a relationship.

Sometimes, you focus too much on the end goal that you fail to pay attention to the process as a whole. And you can’t do that. Instead of focusing on getting into a relationship with a guy, you should focus on establishing a bond and connection with him instead. You need to focus on the process and the results are sure to follow. You just become so desperate for a relationship that your desperation might lead you to do all of the wrong things. And you never want that to be the case.

You turn your relationship with him into the only aspect of your life.

When you do get into a relationship with him, you can’t afford to be giving up your life as a whole. You still have to make sure that you maintain your sense of identity and individuality. If you end up losing yourself and you make the relationship your entire life, you risk having your man feel suffocated. You would be placing too much pressure on your relationship to the point that it breaks.

You willingly let him have everything that he wants.

You shouldn’t be so willing to give a guy everything that he wants. You still need to make sure that you are making him work for your love. You have to make sure that you make him chase after you. Guys don’t want things to be handed to them on a silver plate. You are going to be able to make him appreciate you more if you actually make him work harder for your love. You have to make him realise that the best things in life never come easily.

You don’t stay emotionally honest.

Always stay honest with your feelings with him. Always stay authentic with him. Always let him know that you’re willing to stay true to who you are whenever you are with him. He isn’t going to want to respond to you if you are only going to be putting upfronts and facades.

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Relationship

Weekly Horoscope

Published

7 days ago

April 18, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Aries

You are a warrior by nature, try to balance out your own needs to ensure you do not give all of yourself to another. Give yourself some love, too!

Taurus

Do not fret, the secrets being hidden are not bad and are beneficial to your future. In fact, you will be super happy when they are revealed. Then, you can make strategic moves forward.

Gemini

Your friendship circle is evolving, allowing you to meet new people who will become your best buds over time. Embrace the rare chance to connect and engage with others you meet now.

Cancer

Home is where your heart is this week. And the more reason for you to start making yourself feel cozier in your space now. Treat yourself to a few new items to decorate and spruce up your pad to get in the spring spirit. Add fresh.

Leo

Lean into your higher mind and vibe. This will give you the ultimate opportunity to achieve personal fulfillment and spiritual growth over the next few months. Doing so will encourage you to reach new personal heights.

Virgo

Standing up for yourself takes a lot of guts and confidence. Luckily for you, you are able to assert your view against others and defend yourself against those who aim to bring you down.

Libra

Making your mark on the world is challenging, but you are headed in the right direction. As long as you accept that you need to be a leader rather than an innovator in your endeavours, you can take on your goals with success.

Scorpio

You are being introspective and plotting your next moves on and off this week. Take this time and energy to strategise the upcoming sunny days, so you can use them to your advantage and achieve your desires.

Sagittarius

It is time to get creative! This means busting out your drawing board, paintbrushes and colour palette to make art. Whether it is for professional endeavours or for pleasure, you will be inspired to bring your passions to light

Capricorn

Work is becoming very chaotic at the moment and requires all of your time, but you have the chance to balance out your vibe and not focus on professional endeavours. Find your chill spot and lean into self-care.

Aquarius

You are feeling extra chatty and more able to engage with friends. Word of advice: think before you speak to avoid conflict with others.

Pisces

This week gives you the chance to restart, reboot and get motivated to take on new opportunities. The question is: Are you ready now?

Relationship

Seeing the child, not the label: Supporting children, teens with ADHD

Published

7 days ago

April 18, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Attention-Deficit or Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often mistaken for laziness or indiscipline. In consulting rooms across Accra and in reports from school teachers, the pattern repeats: children who are bright but forgetful, parents who feel helpless, teachers who see incompleteness.

Research is clear-Barkley (2015) and others describe ADHD as a difference in the brain’s regulation of alertness, impulse and working memory, not a lack of effort.

The family’s role begins with structure. Regular sleep, predictable meal and homework times, and a simple visual list (uniform → books → water → corridor) provide the external scaffolding these children need. Praise what is completed—“You opened the book and wrote the first sentence”-instead of rebuking what is missing.

Schools can help by seating the child front-row and centre, giving short written plus verbal instructions, allowing brief movement breaks, using quiet nonverbal cues and, where possible, grading effort and method as well as neatness. These adjustments reduce conflict and raise submission rates without lowering standards.

Couples and caregivers should share roles: one grounds, one pivots, and both protect rest. Shame-“bad parenting, bad child”-needs replacing with fact: different wiring, needs scaffolding.

Outcomes improve not by promises of perfection but by daily routines, clear limits and warmed connection. One homework slot kept, one instruction chunked, one calm repair after blurting-these small wins shift the family climate and let the child be seen beyond the label.

Resource

• CPAC (award-winning Mental Health and Counselling Facility): 0559850604 / 0551428486

Source: REV. COUNSELLOR PRINCE OFFEI’s insights on special needs support, relationships, and mental health in Ghana. He is a leading mental health professional, lecturer, ADR Expert/Arbitrator, renowned author, and marriage counsellor at COUNSELLOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE) – 0551428486 /0559850604.

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