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Showing selflessness, patriotism and dedicated service to national progress …Togbe Afedi XIV leads by example
A selfless humble leader is someone who does not regard oneself as greater than his/her team members. He or she instead, joins hands in helping each team member, does not feel embarrassed to be real and treats each member as family. A selfless leader will genuinely care for each individual in the team irrespective of race, gender, class status or other standards but rather treats everyone according to their talents and the efforts that they put into the task. That efforts, he or she believes, naturally inspire other team members to do the same.
SELFLESS LEADERSHIP QUALITIES
Instead of commanding the team, he or she facilitates the members to achieve the desired goals. A selfless leader, will love to celebrate success together, thinks of the team, never allows any negative impact to reach the team and more importantly analyzing ways to improve and ensure the success of his or her team.
It is a fact that a leader who models selflessness inspires trust and confidence because people believe that they will be supported and protected. This level of care encourages people to emulate the same behavior, leading to reciprocity of the loyalty and gratitude.For me, there are three core principles for selfless leaders and these are, generosity, empathy and excellence.
LEADERSHIP BY EXAMPLE
Similarly, exemplary leadership is a leadership style where you model the behavior you want to see in your team members. When you lead by example, you don’t just push your team members towards excellence but rather demonstrate actively that excellence. People demonstrate leadership qualities by offering to help colleagues who are having problems, being supportive and encouraging, giving credit to others, showing honesty and empathy for others in times of difficulties.
Even the Holy Bible states in 1 Timothy 4:12 that, “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love in faith and in purity”. That shows the level of importance in exemplary leadership.
REJECTION OF EX-GRATIA BY TOGBE AFEDE
Having enlightened my cherished readers and patrons about the importance and significance of these laudable attributes to mankind in the schemes of development and advancement of society, I am inclined to relate it to one of the nation’s finest and important personalities in the chieftaincy institution who have shown and continues to show empathy and patriotism in our country’s forward march to prosperity.
The indefatigable TogbeAfede XIV, the Paramount Chief of the Asogli State in the Volta Region and former President of the National House of Chiefs has of late been in the news for a good reason. The 65-year old chief who is the Chairman of the Board of Directors of Africa World Airlines and Board Chairman of Accra Hearts of Oak, keeps trending in the social and traditional media for having rejected an amount of GHc 365,392.00ex-gratia paid to him by the government for serving on the Council of State. According to him it was inappropriate to receive the cash when he had already taken salaries for his work.
REASONS BEHIND HIS REJECTION
He explained that his rejection of the payment was consistent with his general abhorrence of the payment of huge ex-gratia and other outrageous benefits to people who have by their own volition offered to serve our poor country. He, however, rejected speculations being bandied in some circles that the payment was made to trap him. “I believe it was paid to everybody who served on the Council of State. However, I thought that extra payment was inappropriate for a short, effectively part-time work for which I receive monthly salary and was entitled to other privileges. So I was very uncomfortable with it”, he said.
Honestly,I did not think that TogbeAfede who is quite rich because of the conglomerates of businesses under his care, rejected the money because of his wealth. To me personally, this traditional ruler, noted for his benevolence, rejected the money on principle and heart feeling because he felt the part-time job did not deserve such an emolument as he indicated in his rejection letter. This man is indeed, a loyal, dedicated and honest personality who deserves commendation from all right thinking persons. He has shown leadership by example and selflessness which must be emulated by responsible citizens in the society. Even though he rejected his ex-gratia on personal ground and would not expect his colleagues who served with him on the council to do same, I (writer) would have loved that it is not too late, they ought to follow Togbe’s shining example and decline the offer unless they have already received their entitlements.
TAKING A SECOND LOOK AT THE EX-GRATIA AWARD
The action taken by TogbeAfedi, has brought to the fore the need for this country to take a second look at this huge lump sum ex-gratia awards for some categories of workers such as Ministers of State, Parliamentarians, District Chief Executives and other Article 71 office holders for every four years. The present economic hardships need to be taken into consideration in the payment of this ex-gratia. The current practice in which whether you lose or win an election as a parliamentarian, you get payment of an ex-gratia is wasteful and does not help the nation. The way forward is to ensure that, those who do not retain their seats are the people to be paid ex-gratia and not all parliamentarians.Honestly, this payment of this ex-gratia as enshrined in the 1992 Constitution needs to be taken a second look and review if necessary, to reflect the present economic challenges.
SOCIAL INTERVENTION INITIATIVES IN HUGE ARREARS
Is it not absurd and shameful that while the various social intervention initiatives such as theLivlihood Empowerment Against Poverty ( LEAP), the Ghana School Feeding Program and the National Health Insurance Scheme (NHIS) are in huge arrears, the nation continues to pay fantastic ex-gratia to some category of workers to the disadvantage of the poor and vulnerable persons within the society? Such a behavior to me and indeed, all right thinking people, is callous and inhuman.Is it not the same government which told Ghanaians that in view of the economic challenges, we should tighten our belts? Is it now a question of robbing Peter to pay Paul? That is left to posterity to answer.
It is a fact that politics in Ghana has seriously been monetized with the payments of a lot of benefits to our politicians and that is why people especially the youth who finish their education without any working experience are all eager and anxious to venture into politics because they find it as the easiest way of getting rich overnight.
FOLLOWING THE EXAMPLES OF OTHER COUNTRIES
Just visit countries like India and Sweden, whose economies are far better than Ghana in terms of Gross Domestic Products (GDP) and see how they are doing their politics. For instance, in Sweden, as I indicated in my last article about the need for us to follow their modesty and simplicity, there are no lifetime pension for former parliamentarians, MPs are expected to use public transport during sitting hours, the whole parliament operates with three vehicles which are used for official duties. Swedish MPs have no secretaries or assistants and they have to plan their own schedules. Public Service in Sweden is neither prestigious nor lucrative.
We are in a terrible times and struggling to come out of the woods and, therefore, we need to adopt practices that would not put extra burden on our economy. We must as much as possible, try to avoid extravagancy and live within our means. As a matter of priority, let us protect the public purse by cutting down on all frivolous expenses and conserve the needed funds to build our economy for sustainable growth and development.
The eminent chief, TogbeAfede, who is a profound businessman with a lot of companies at his disposal, has demonstrated that if we are able to cut down wastage in the system, we can generate adequate funds to meet our financial obligations.TogbeAfede has indeed, shown high level of patriotism, selflessness and sympathetic to national development and must be celebrated, rather than the criticisms and vilifications by a section of the society on political lines. Posterity will judge him for his positive action.
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By Charles Neequaye
THE state of feeling rejected, could be a terrifying experience especially for those who have become used to fame. If not properly addressed, it could lead to depression and the consequences, could be disastrous.
When you are on top of your game in whatever profession you find yourself such that you become famous, a lot of people try to associate with you. The phone never ceases to ring and one is tempted to feel loved and very important.
When a disaster strikes and the fame or the money which was the source of the attraction fades away, the circle of friends and fans begin to shrink and the phone will start to stop ringing until the call stops voting completely.
You will be shocked at how people you considered friends, will no longer be calling you or pay casual visits as they used to. You will begin to notice that messages you leave after calling them and not getting a response are not replied to and that is when you begin to know who your true friends are.
One of the most popular movie stars was an actress called Sharon Stone. In an interview with one of the media houses that was published, she spoke about how people who should have come around to encourage her in her moment of depression, shunned her. The calls stopped coming.
This is what the Bible admonishes that the arm of flesh will fail you and therefore we should put our trust in God. It could be a very frightening experience and can easily lead to depression.
Human nature being what it is, people will want to get close if things are okay. Everybody wants to associate themselves with interesting things, famous people, rich people etc for mainly selfish reasons.
We need to develop the habit of putting our trust in God and relying less on human beings. The lesson we have to take along in life is that, no one marries his or her enemy so how come people who took vows that they will love each other become so hostile to each other that they want to go their separate ways in life? Such is the reality of life.
It is therefore prudent for people to recognise that, life is full of uncertainties and so there is the need to prepare your mind for uncertainties so that when they occur, they do not disorganise your mental sanity.
A lot of people have experienced situations where people who they could have sworn will never betray their trust have disappointed them when they were through challenging moments.
If there is one thing famous people should desire, it should be the ability to identify who are true friends are. Countless stories abound regarding incidence of celebrities who have lost their shine and their wives divorcing them soon after.
It is sometimes useful as a famous or rich person to sign a prenuptial agreement before marriage to safeguard or protect yourself from any future unpleasant surprises.
People can be very pretentious these days, it goes both ways. There is this real life story where a man married a divorced wealthy woman and convinced her to sell her house so they could build a new one together, with the excuse that people are gossiping that he is being housed by a woman.
The woman agreed and they put up a new building. After a few years the man asked for a divorce, only for the woman to realise that the land on which the building was situated, was bought in the man’s name.
This can drive a person insane, if you are not mentally tough and this happens to you. When people hear that you are homeless, a lot of your so-called friends will stop calling, so that you do not become a burden on them.
By Laud Kissi-Mensah
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‘But, er …. I don’t even know your name’.
‘Paul. Paul Allotey. I’m Sarah, by the way. Paul, why don’t you leave me here, since this is the last important thing I’m doing today’.
‘Okay. Now Sarah. I was just thinking. You will be here at the cafe for about an hour. By then it will be about twelve thirty. Then, you would be thinking of buying yourself some lunch, to eat here or to take home. So if you would please allow me, I will take you to one of the nicest eating places in town, and after you have sorted that one out, then I can drop you home. Just that one errand, then I won’t bother you again’.
‘You are not bothering me at all. You are being very kind to me. And I just realised you are a mind reader too. The last item on my agenda was lunch’.
‘I’m so glad I appeared at your doorstep, just in time’.
‘Okay. Now Paul, since you say the cafe is a comfortable place, let’s go in together, and you can do your work while I get my application done’.
‘Okay, Sarah. Thanks. Let’s go’.
We got back in the car at eleven forty-five.
‘So where are we going, Paul?’
‘To Royalty restaurant. It’s a twenty minute drive away’.
‘So, do you enjoy your job?’
‘Most certainly. I won’t change it, not even to be President. And am I right to say that you are preparing to enter the university?’
‘That’s my plan. I hope it works’.
‘It will, if you are determined, and disciplined. You look very much like a disciplined person’.
‘Thank you very much’.
We arrived at Royalty in twenty-five minutes, ‘You are joining me for lunch, Paul’.
‘Thanks for the honour, Sarah. But the bill is on me’.
‘Aren’t you taking on too much for one day?’
‘I never do anything that is bigger than me, Sarah’.
Over the next hour and a half, we discussed fashion, local and international politics, and sports, as we ate and relaxed. Finally, he drove me to the shop.
‘I will never forget you, Paul’.
‘I’m glad to have been helpful. But if you don’t mind, I’ll say it again, your husband is extremely lucky. You are really beautiful’.
‘Thanks again. But do you mind if I call you sometime in the future?’
‘Certainly not. Let me write it here. I will not ask for your number, for obvious reasons. But I will be looking forward to hearing from you. And hopefully, I will see you next month, when I call to drop your bill’.
‘Okay Paul. See you then’. What a lovely day, I said to myself as I opened the front door. I closed the shop and got home by seven. I went straight to the bedroom, stood in the mirror and took a good look at myself. ‘You are a very beautiful woman, Sarah. Never forget that’. I will not forget that, again.
Over the next several weeks, Martin and I had very little to do with each other. In the morning he ate his breakfast and after a shabby ‘I’m going’, he left. He came home around eight at the earliest, ate his dinner and, already soaked in beer, went off to sleep.
He spent the greater part of the weekends at the club house with his friends, playing tennis and partying. My mind was focused on furthering my education, so I didn’t complain to him, and didn’t bother to inform my parents about what was happening. I had decided that I would only take action if he lifted his hand against me again. I spent my free time reading all manner of interesting stuff on the internet, and chatting with my sister on WhatsApp.
One evening, he came home at about eight, rushed to the bedroom and rushed out. An envelope, obviously containing money, dropped out of his pocket, and I picked it up and followed him. I was going to call him and give it to him, but I noticed that there was a young woman in the car, so I went back in, counted it and put it in a drawer in the hall. He came back after some ten minutes.
‘Excuse me, I dropped an envelope containing money. You must have seen it’.
‘Yes, I saw it. Actually, I followed you, and was about to call you and hand it over to you when I realised that there was a woman in the car, so I came back in. I counted it. One thousand cedis.
‘Well let me have it. I have to be going’.
‘I will let you have it if you will tell me who the woman in the car is, and why you are going to give her that amount of money’.
‘Listen, if you waste my time, I will teach you a lesson you will never forget. Give me the money now!’
‘Here’s what we will do, Martin. I know you will give money to her anyway, so I will give it to you, if you will withdraw the threat you just issued. But I want you to know that I will be taking some steps from tomorrow. Things are getting out of hand’.
‘Okay, I’m sorry I threatened you. Can you please give me the money’. I handed it over to him, and he ran out’.
The following morning, I waited for him to finish having breakfast, and told him I wanted to have a word with him urgently.
‘You better be quick. You know I’m going to work’.
‘Well, I want to inform you that I will inform my parents, and your parents, about the situation in this house. As I said yesterday, things are getting out of hand. You spend most of your time drinking. You get drunk every evening, and through the weekend. And you are also spending your time and money on a prostitute’.
‘How dare you? One more stupid word from you …’
‘Am I lying, Martin? You have just started life, yet you are behaving like a rich, elderly man who has already seen his children through university, and can afford a life of fun. As I said, I’m going to inform our parents. Maybe your parents can straighten you out before it is too late’.
‘Look, we can talk this evening. It’s nothing like what you are saying’. He walked away, shocked.
That evening, I was expecting to have a meaningful discussion with him, but his mother called early in the evening to offer me some ‘advice’. Her son had called to say that certain developments at home were disturbing him so much that they were beginning to affect his work.
And, ‘as a loving mother to her daughter’, she was advising me to submit to my husband, and support him in prayer, and not ‘drive him from home’. Men would always be men, and she was telling me ‘from experience’ that no matter how much time Martin stayed away from home, he would always come home to me.
She had been a young wife before, so she understood the challenges I was facing. So I could be assured that if I followed her advice, all would be well. And, of course, she didn’t allow me to tell my side of the story.
Martin came home very late, and very drunk. And from the next morning, he carried on as before. With some hesitation, I called my dad and told him all that had gone on.
‘Well, my daughter. I’m not going to say “I told you so”. I was only trying to protect you. So here’s what we’ll do. Continue doing the best you can, and try not to give him any excuse to harm you, but if things continue to deteriorate, I will take you back.
A couple of days later, my cousin Dinah arrived in Accra from Brussels, having completed her medical course. With Martin’s agreement, I went to Koforidua and spent a couple of days. I spent most of the time chatting about her experiences in the US, but we also discussed my relationship with Martin, and she endorsed Dad’s decision to take action if Martin’s behaviour did not change after two weeks Elaine informed Mom and Dad. We endorsed Dad’s decision to take action if there was no change in two weeks.
Dinah returned with me to Takoradi. Her plan was to spend a couple of weeks, and return to Accra to be posted. I called Paul Allotey, and asked if he would meet her for lunch and, if possible, show her some interesting spots. Delighted, he suggested that we meet at Royalty the next day.
I told Martin about it, to remove any possibility of future disagreement over ‘going out with men’.
‘It’s fine with me’, he said, ‘if, of all the people who could show your sister round this town, you chose a borla man. Doesn’t that indicate the kind of person you are?’
‘ First of all, Martin’, I’ve spoken to him a few times, and he comes across as a decent guy, so I think it is rather unfortunate that you are writing him off when you don’t know him’.
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