Obaa Yaa
She says she is high-class
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 25-year-old boy in one of the best universities in Ghana. I met a sweet, loving and kind girlfriend on campus who I love and cherish so much.
Unfortunately, she has started exhibiting a ‘high-class’ lady lifestyle on campus which has become a major concern to me.
She is always buying expensive clothes and accessories, and I have no idea about the source of the money.
I am also aware she can’t raise that money because she does not work and she’s not from a rich family either.
In fact, because of her background, I sometimes help her out with her school fees so I keep wondering where she gets that money to maintain her ‘high- class’ status.
I have confronted her about it severally and we always end up having a terrible argument.
I fear she is keeping ‘Sugar daddies’, though she keeps denying it each time I ask her about the source of the money.
She once claimed she earns the money from her holiday jobs.
Please help me solve this problem.
Gideon, Tamale.
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Dear Gideon,
Your girlfriend is an intriguing character. She may be telling the truth about getting the money from her holiday jobs.
Meanwhile, if you feel she is not telling you the whole truth and you suspect there may be more to it, you can talk to her calmly and educate her on the need to save some money.
You can let her know that the way she is spending the money is not the best and that, she was wasting the money on frivolous things.
As for having ‘Sugar daddies’, it is automatic that she might keep one if her friends on campus have some.
The best thing to do is for you to maintain a level head and do not let the situation affect your academic performance. If all efforts prove abortive, which is possible, break up with her, put your energy into your studies and focus on a brighter future.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.
I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.
Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.
Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.
—Esinam, Legon
Dear Esinam,
When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.
Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?
You might also reflect on:
- Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
- Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
- Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
- Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?
Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.
Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.
It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.
The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.
This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.
This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.
Chelsea, Accra.
Dear Chelsea,
Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.
Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.
Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.
Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.
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