Obaa Yaa
She is unwilling to break up with me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35 years old married man with two children, but two years ago, I befriended a 25-year-old lady.
Before we started our friendship, I explained to her that I was married but she said she was not bothered.
She is very kind, open-minded and possesses the quality every man would look for in a lady.
Our relationship has developed to the extent that she feels lonely and uneasy if she does not see me after a couple of days.
When I suggested to her recently that we should end our relationship because I have discovered that I was wasting her time, she burst in uncontrollable tears.
According to her, she cannot stay without me and that she loves me because of the way I treat her, adding that she always feels comfortable in my arms. She has threatened that if I press further to leave her she would take her life.
Unfortunately, I am not financially sound to cater for two wives.
Please what step should I take?
Kwame, Accra.
Dear Kwame,
Sometimes people find it extremely difficult to comprehend issues pertaining to love.
You are frank in putting across your problem for a solution which needs a gradual approach in dealing with it. Since the lady has threatened to take her life, you must treat this information with great caution and the seriousness that it deserves.
Constant dialogue and the desire to calm down tempers will gradually solve the problem and she will take her mind off you.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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