Obaa Yaa
No Lady loves me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 30 years of age, unemployed and struggling to make a living. I am so hairy that I started shaving at age 20.
The excessive shaving has made my cheeks rough. I look much older than my age.
At age 30, I feel I should have a wife or be involved in a serious relationship leading to marriage but I have no one.
Currently, I am depressed because I am still looking for a job.
However, my choice of a woman who actually satisfies my set standard or whom I wish to have does not love me.
I have tried several other ladies but it all backfired although I am sober and live a modest life.
Could it be that I am jobless or due to my rough cheeks. Can something be done about it?
Troubled man, Kumasi.
Dear Troubled man,
I would want to believe it has more to do with your being unemployed.
If you propose marriage to a woman while you are unemployed, she would not take you serious.
Marriage thrives more on other factors than love, especially when children are born in the marriage, you need money to take care of them.
I will also suggest you see a skin specialist about your rough cheeks and do not jump into conclusion about your looks.
Obaa Yaa
My mother is against my family
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM a 30-year-old lady, married to a very humble, God fearing and hardworking man.
During our dating days, my husband was in the good books of my mother. In fact, he was her ‘sweet heart’. They could sit down and chat for long hours.
He was always showering her with money, gifts and goodies.
However, my husband lost his job a few months after marriage and I am the one assisting our home financially.
My mother’s attitude has changed because my husband doesn’t shower her with gifts any longer.
I personally told her we were struggling financially and we needed her support as well.
She came for a visit last week and started complaining bitterly about how old I have become because I am in a bad marriage.
I quickly threw her bags out and told her not to come to my house again.
Did I do the right thing by sacking her?
Oye, Kwabenya.
Dear Oye,
YOUR case is very dicey and since your mother is involved, I want to be very careful with my choice of words.
I understand what you are going through at the moment but kindly control your emotions when you are angry.
Throwing her out of the house was a big no and I urge you to apologize to her.
You can report her to your father to speak to her.
Try as much as possible to support your home with the little you have until your husband bounces back.
Continue to pray for him and encourage him to continue to apply for jobs.
I strongly believe with God all things are possible.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
