Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am aged 39, our marriage is two years old. I am sincerely worried about the changes in my wife. I got married to my wife who was slim and very beautiful but after the birth of our first child, she suddenly became fat.

She looks entirely like a differ­ent person to me. I have pleaded with her to hit the gym and also reduce her food intake, suggesting she eat only once a day.

I even went on to register her in a gym myself and pressurised her to be serious with it but she only went for a week and stopped, saying it’s stressful and still eating more than once a day.

I only make love to my wife when I am drunk, as I no longer find her sweet and attractive. As a result, I am having an affair with a lady I met on social media two months ago and she is pregnant.

I am confused because I did not intend to have a broken marriage. I sincerely love my wife, but her new size is sincerely a turn-off for me. Honestly, I am pleading for your assistance on how to tackle this situation.

Mr Owusu,

Techiman.

Dear Owusu,

You should understand that pregnancy and childbirth comes with a lot of changes and challenges.

People lose their lives whilst giving birth, others lose their teeth and some become paralysed for the rest of their lives.

If the basis for marrying your wife was because of her stature, then it’s highly possible you didn’t love her because these body chang­es are meant to happen.

You cannot tell an elderly wom­an to eat once a day just because you want her shape back.

You can convince her to exercise but not to compel her against her will.

And how sure are you that the other woman will not go through these changes when she gives birth as well.

It means you will end up moving from one woman to the other.

If you really cherish your wife and don’t want a broken home, then inform her about the other woman and the child she is expect­ing. Be responsible for the child and end the affair with the other woman.

Be ready to accept the current stature of your wife and enjoy your marriage.