Obaa Yaa
My sister don’t want me to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
WE are three siblings – all girls. My elder sister and I are very close and share almost everything together. When I completed Junior High School, my elder sister was writing her Nov/Dec remedial because she failed in three core subject.
Due to this, my father refused to allow me to further my education until my sister passed her exams.
Whiles I was home, a friend introduced me to a man who eventually fell in love with me.
We dated for about a year and he has proposed.
My parents are in support of this but my sister is pleading with me not to marry because she is the eldest.
Since that is not the first time she is doing this, I discussed with my father but his response was more in support of my sister’s claim; that she is the eldest and I need not rush into marriage.
What should I do?
Kafui, Sogakope.
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Dear Kafui,
It’s sad you are going through this problem and I must say I’m happy you have opened up on this. First of all, you should approach your sister and ask her if she was ready to get married or move to the next level in life because time and tide waits for no man and as women, e mature earlier than men.
Her actions may be delaying you; that is certainly not the best, especially when your man is ready to marry you.
A man who is not ready to settle down will not propose to you. If you put impediments on his way, he would move on and get involved with someone else.
Your sister should not be a barrier to your marriage. Let your parents also talk to her. If she is not ready, it does not mean everything around him must come to a stall.
Pray about it and I trust that God will help you to overcome this problem.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
