Obaa Yaa
My boyfriend wants to commit suicide
Dear Obaa Yaa
I am deeply in love with a young man for the past four years. Two years ago, he lost his job and he has become worried ever since.
My lover has written applications to many places in search of a new job but he has not received a reply to any of them as of now.
Although my business is booming, I cannot cater for our needs while the monthly bills keep piling up. This is taking a toll on him.
He is depressed because he talks about ending his life to enable me to get another man who will support me financially.
I don’t want to lose him because I love him.
Please what should I do?
Mary, Koforidua.
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Dear Mary,
I appreciate the love you have for your lover and the support given him since he lost his job. This is the time you must show him more love and try to condition his mind.
Since the man is the head of the family, he finds himself in an awkward situation where he rather depends on you for his daily sustenance. He will definitely not feel comfortable with the condition in which he finds himself.
Continue to do your best in supporting him and calm him down and tell him things will definitely change for the better one day.
Since your business is booming, why don’t you consider expanding it so that the two of you can handle it for more profit? This will affirm the saying that when one door closes another one opens.
Let him understand that it is God who has given him life and he is the only one who has the power to take it back at the appropriate time, so he should not consider suicide as the solution to his problem.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
