Obaa Yaa
My boyfriend wants to commit suicide
Dear Obaa Yaa
I am deeply in love with a young man for the past four years. Two years ago, he lost his job and he has become worried ever since.
My lover has written applications to many places in search of a new job but he has not received a reply to any of them as of now.
Although my business is booming, I cannot cater for our needs while the monthly bills keep piling up. This is taking a toll on him.
He is depressed because he talks about ending his life to enable me to get another man who will support me financially.
I don’t want to lose him because I love him.
Please what should I do?
Mary, Koforidua.
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Dear Mary,
I appreciate the love you have for your lover and the support given him since he lost his job. This is the time you must show him more love and try to condition his mind.
Since the man is the head of the family, he finds himself in an awkward situation where he rather depends on you for his daily sustenance. He will definitely not feel comfortable with the condition in which he finds himself.
Continue to do your best in supporting him and calm him down and tell him things will definitely change for the better one day.
Since your business is booming, why don’t you consider expanding it so that the two of you can handle it for more profit? This will affirm the saying that when one door closes another one opens.
Let him understand that it is God who has given him life and he is the only one who has the power to take it back at the appropriate time, so he should not consider suicide as the solution to his problem.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
