Obaa Yaa
My boyfriend loves another girl
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a girl of 17 years and in love with a 22- year- old boy. We have planned to marry in future.
Unfortunately, my dear one is in love with another lady who is a talkative person and responsible for every misunderstanding in the community. This lady is known for causing a stir in the area and has succeeded in bringing problems among families.
On many occasions, my lover had praised people who were frank to express their feelings and on the other hand said l was too quiet for his liking.
Though we move on very well, l have realised that he loves the other lady more than he loves me and from all indications he is likely to marry her instead of me.
I love him so much and l would like to be his wife. What can l do to win his love? I cannot stay without him.
Maame Esi,
Accra.
Dear Maame Esi,
Your letter contains a lot of information and warnings from which one can easily draw useful lessons.
In the first instance, you are too young to be saddled with marital issues. What you ought to do now is to concentrate on your education, try to secure a firm ground, attain the required age before you marry.
Your lover has informed you about the type of lady he loves. His revelation that you are too quiet for his liking is a clear signal that you are not in his good books and he could easily leave you for the other lady.
Irrespective of the fact that you have planned to marry and you still love him, you must get yourself ready for any eventualities.
Couple who love each other no matter their differences can stay together for a long time. However, where there are differences at the beginning of the relationship and preferences are made, then one must be careful and take a wise decision at the right time.
Though you love him and are prepared to marry him, he does not reciprocate the same measure of love for you, therefore, you cannot force him to love you. Don’t worry if he decides to end the relationship.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
