Obaa Yaa
Love is only a small part of it
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old Senior High School graduate living with my parents.
About two weeks ago, I met a young lady who I have fallen so much in love with.
Even though I have qualified to enter a tertiary institution, I want to marry this lady before someone grabs her.
Obaa Yaa, can I go ahead and marry her before continuing my education since education is no race?
David, Ho.
Dear David,
Please take a cue from the saying that ‘first things first’. It is not advisable to stop school just because you want to get married to this lady. Getting married can’t be a priority over education.
You can, however, still be in school and engage her if you are so desperate about clinching her from others.
Whatever it is, remember that your education is more important because that is how you can attain a lucrative career to enable you look after a wife.
Getting married is more than merely falling in love. It inevitably entails putting food on the table, bringing up children, paying school fees, electricity and water bills.
Eventually, you will realise that love is only a small part of the entire enterprise.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
