Is my girlfriend cursed?

Published

3 hours ago

May 16, 2026

I have a girlfriend who is ‘allergic’ to me and ‘allergic’ to men in general.

Because of this, I barely touch her. I do not sit too close to her. I do not even hold her hands for long.

We have tried before. Even recently, we tried again. At first, things looked normal.

Then suddenly she lifted her hands and started scratching her back aggressively. We stopped immediately. Moments later, she ran to the bathroom and started vomiting.

She spent almost four hours there, weak, nauseous, and drained.

Watching someone you love suffer while you cannot do anything about it is painful. Is it a curse or an allergy?

Hello Christian,

What you’re describing sounds frightening and emotionally exhausting for both of you. But it is important not to jump to the idea of a curse.

Severe reactions after touch, closeness, stress, or intimacy can sometimes be linked to medical conditions, allergies, anxiety responses, trauma, or psychosomatic reactions.

The safest and most loving step is encouraging her to see qualified doctors, especially an allergist and mental health professional, so the cause can be properly understood.

Your patience already shows deep care. Do not blame yourself or search for supernatural explanations first.

Focus on support, medical guidance, emotional safety, and honest communication while protecting both her health and your relationship.

Her grandma may become a hindrance

Published

3 hours ago

May 16, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am 20 and she is 19. We have been lovers for the past four months and have promised to get married to each other.

We love each other badly that one cannot leave the other for long. Our relatives know about our affair except her grandmother who will be in the country soon.

My problem is that, I doubt if the grandmother will be excited about this relationship. Her grandmother is very strict and I doubt if this relationship can be successful.

Her grandmother has been like a mother and everything to her, so her final decision may count.

We have promised each other to stay holy and clean.

Lartey,

Sunyani

Dear Lartey,

I don’t think your fears are justified if the girl’s parent do not object to your relationship with her.

What makes you think her grandmother will oppose the relationship if her parents endorse it?

Be positive about the relationship. There is no cause for alarm.

I am very happy you guys are staying holy and clean until marriage.

Both of you are student and need to be careful about any decision you take.

I believe you should try as much as possible to support each other and stay away from any negative act.

My husband is accusing me of cheating

Published

1 week ago

May 9, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I took off my wedding rings but could not find it again. I was washing when I took them off and placed them on a wall close to me. Honestly, after washing I forgot to pick them up until the evening, when my husband asked where my ring were, I quickly dashed out of the room to check where I had placed them, but they were not there. My husband made it clear that I was cheating that was why I could take my rings off and lose them.

I was packing to leave the house when the bags fell and I heard a tinkling sound of metals instead of plastic. I looked around the floor, and my rings were lying there.

Who took the rings and kept them there and why would the person do that to me just to shake the foundation of my marriage?

Oye, Tabora.

Dear Oye,

Your husband’s reaction was abusive, not just angry. Accusing you of cheating was just mean.

Rings don’t prove fidelity, trust does. Your response was fair: taking rings off to wash is normal, and cheating has nothing to do with it.

The fact that the rings ‘mysteriously’ ended up in your bags suggests someone moved them deliberately to cause conflict. A partner who jumps to punishment instead of problem-solving will do it again when the next misunderstanding happens.

If indeed your husband threatened and pushed you out, kindly talk to someone you trust in the family or a counsellor before moving back in. If you choose to stay, your husband needs to apologise and let peace to reign.