Obaa Yaa
I want to go back to my ex
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My girlfriend and I were in a relationship for five years. We had a misunderstanding, leading to a three-month break.
The misunderstanding was as a result of me taking too much alcohol and not saving for the future.
I know she wants the best for me, but I thought she wanted to control my life and make it unbearable for me.
This led to our break-up but I have regretted my actions.
During the break-up, I got involved with another girl and unfortunately she became pregnant.
Even though I do not have any romantic feelings for her, her family is insisting I marry her.
On the other hand, my ex-girlfriend wants us to reconcile and get married.
To be honest, I love my ex-girlfriend very much. Her family knows me well, and she was there for me when I travelled overseas.
What should I do?
Sena, Nyakrom
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Dear Sena,
Experience is indeed the mother of wisdom, and I am glad you have grown and learned from your mistakes.
I know you are currently back against the wall but my advice is to prioritise your girlfriend who is currently pregnant with your child.
Love can evolve over time, and I believe that in the coming days, you may develop romantic feelings for the new person in your life.
It is advisable to have an honest conversation with your ex-girlfriend, explain your current situation to her and ensure she understands that you are now involved with someone else.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
