Obaa Yaa
I am in love with a sex worker
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Am a 36-year-old man in a reputable institution and doing well in my endeavours.
On my way home one day, I met a 27- year- old beautiful lady who is a university student and sex worker.
I gave her a lift and since then I find it difficult to forget about this lady.
Since I have fallen in love with her, I asked her one day why she has decided to be a sex worker.
She explained that she is an orphan and has no one to cater for her so she does it for a living.
I am deeply in love with her. Should I marry her?
Albert, Cantonment.
Dear Albert,
Your case is a dicey one because falling in love is one thing and getting the right person to marry is another.
This is a fifty-fifty case because as a sex worker she might be exposed to many clients for which reason she might have developed an insatiable desire for sex at all times. Therefore when married, she will never be satisfied with sex and this will result in infidelity and related problems.
On the contrary, somebody who has been pushed into sex work because of necessity could change her behaviour when she obtains a stable source of livelihood.
If she will be truly repentant and become a changed person for good, then you will experience a successful marriage life.
Should you decide to marry her, then you ought to take your time and study her before you do so.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
