Obaa Yaa
I am hurt by his actions
Dear Obaa Yaa,
As teenagers, we attended the same Senior High School and became close friends after some years.
Having gotten satisfied with the hope that we could spend our lives as a lovely couple, we planned to tie the knot.
Unfortunately, l lost my father through a fatal motor accident and this had affected our scheduled wedding.
We had no choice but to reschedule our wedding to enable me to concentrate on my father’s funeral.
He stood by me during our period of grief through to the burial of my late father.
During the period, l discovered that my fiancé had changed since he did not have time for me as he used to.
When l complained about change in his attitude, he told me that he wanted me to relax after l was done with my father’s funeral.
At the time the dust had settled for us to get back to serious business, my fiancé had changed and did not have time for me again.
The change in attitude gave me the premonition that there was something bad going on in our relationship.
Three weeks ago, l deduced from his statement that we could not live as a couple in the future.
However, l tried to conceal my anger and prayed that things should change.
A few weeks later, he disclosed to me that he was no longer interested in the relationship because his mother was against it.
l was embarrassed and planned never to accept proposal from any gentleman in life.
Should l go by my decision?
Tina, Takoradi.
Dear Tina,
l feel sorry that but for the demise of your father, your scheduled marriage with this gentleman could have taken place.
It is unfortunate that your relationship has ended this way.
l can envisage the pains you are experiencing now. Take heart and brace up for a better future because you cannot understand God’s plan for you. This marriage could have ended on a bad note.
Though l cannot tell how old you are, l must advise you not to shut your doors to any gentleman who may express the interest to marry you in the future.
You are yet to meet your Mr right.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
