Obaa Yaa
How can I get over this?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship over one year. Though things have been moving on well, I have the feeling that this gentleman will one day patch up with his ex-girlfriend and he will dump me.
The fear has come about because his ex-girlfriend visits him at the end of every month to collect money for the upkeep of their child.
Although he keeps assuring me that he loves me, I have my doubts and not convinced that he is sincere and will keep to his words.
I am often worried whenever he travelled out of Accra on a business trip. I do not trust him because of his attitude and his utterances of late.
How can I get over it?
Nana Adzoa- Tema.
Dear Nana Adzoa,
Love thrives on trust and tolerance,therefore, if these ingredients are absent in a marriage,the future becomes uncertain.
You sound as if your boyfriend has given you a reason not to trust him. If you keep on disturbing him, it will drive him away.
Your husband should be careful since his ex- girlfriend visits him every month to get money for the upkeep of their child. The frequent visits could pose a serious problem for your marriage.
I guess your insecurity could be derived from how a past boyfriend might have disappointed you. If that is the case then you must try and get assurance from him.
Instead of worrying unnecessarily which could disturb you, enjoy every moment with him, forget about your previous relationship.
However, if you still feel insecure, then discuss the matter with an elderly priest or person and let him help you to overcome it.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
