Obaa Yaa
My wife receives too many calls
Obaa Yaa,
I am very disturbed by the attitude of my wife. Recently, she has been receiving too many calls on her mobile phone. That is not so much of a problem to me.
What worries me is that she giggles as she talks and even though I eavesdrop, yet I cannot hear anything she says.
I have funny feelings she has been talking to a new man, but anytime I confront her about it, she denies it. I want her to stop it.
I cannot stand those conversations because the calls come at odd hours sometimes.
Obaa Yaa, please guide me on what I should do to stop her.
Worried man,
Accra.
Dear Worried man,
FROM the tone of your letter, it appears you have not discussed the issue with your wife.
Let her know in no uncertain terms that you are not pleased with people calling her at odd hours. It would, therefore, be better if she puts off her phone during those odd hours.
Tell her you are getting suspicious about those numerous calls, and that the situation is disturbing your relationship with her. You will therefore be pleased if she takes steps to limit those calls.
If she refuses, then she is being disloyal to you and also disrespectful. You may then report to her parents or yours and tell them what you think about her conduct.
I hope it does not get to that extent, though.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.
Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.
By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.
He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.
I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.
Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.
Paulina,
Dodowa.
Dear Paulina,
THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.
That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.
And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.
However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.
Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.
My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.
My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.
He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.
Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.
Please advise me.
Emefa,
Sogakope.
Dear Emefa,
Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.
Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.
You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.
However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.
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