Obaa Yaa
My wife receives too many calls
Obaa Yaa,
I am very disturbed by the attitude of my wife. Recently, she has been receiving too many calls on her mobile phone. That is not so much of a problem to me.
What worries me is that she giggles as she talks and even though I eavesdrop, yet I cannot hear anything she says.
I have funny feelings she has been talking to a new man, but anytime I confront her about it, she denies it. I want her to stop it.
I cannot stand those conversations because the calls come at odd hours sometimes.
Obaa Yaa, please guide me on what I should do to stop her.
Worried man,
Accra.
Dear Worried man,
FROM the tone of your letter, it appears you have not discussed the issue with your wife.
Let her know in no uncertain terms that you are not pleased with people calling her at odd hours. It would, therefore, be better if she puts off her phone during those odd hours.
Tell her you are getting suspicious about those numerous calls, and that the situation is disturbing your relationship with her. You will therefore be pleased if she takes steps to limit those calls.
If she refuses, then she is being disloyal to you and also disrespectful. You may then report to her parents or yours and tell them what you think about her conduct.
I hope it does not get to that extent, though.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
