Obaa Yaa
He promised to pay my school fees
Dear ObaaYaa,
I dropped out of school when my father lost his job and things became very tough for the family to get the daily three square meals.
A friend of mine took the opportunity and introduced me to a man who became my “Sugar Daddy”. Although that man had promised to help me pursue my education, which i treasured so much, l did not feel comfortable because he is married with children.
I have made enquiries to discover that this man who has promised to assist me to realise my educational dreams, does not cater for his own children and have incurred the displeasure of his family and other people.
I further learnt that the family responsibility rested solely on his wife who has to do several jobs to pay the school fees of the children.
I feel guilty and would like to back out of the relationship.
Would i be seen to offend him in any way?
Celestine, Accra.
Dear Celestine,
Count yourself blessed because you have been saved from an eminent problem which could have ruined your life.
Though you needed help to further your education and get a little relief from economic problems, you could have landed in a more serious problem which could have compounded your existing problem.
Your decision to conduct background checks on this man has really saved the situation. He could have impregnated you and messed up your life in the process.
That is why the word of God frowns on pre- marital sex at the beginning of a relationship.
Endeavour to engage in petty trading as a means of livelihood and if possible you can save a little towards your education.
Those who can genuinely give to support others are very few while majority operate as wolfs in sheep clothing.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
