Obaa Yaa
Will you accept 26 years difference for couple?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When l first heard that an elderly man was dating my best friend, l did not believe it, considering the sort of person she is and the ideals she stands for in life.
However, l was faced with realities when l met the two of them in town, apparently they came to purchase a few items. I took the opportunity and pressed to hear from the horse’s own mouth and she did not feel shy to confirm it.
The age difference of the two of them is about 26 years and she did not find anything wrong with that. In my conversation with her, she told me that though the age difference was that much, she loved her husband despite the fact that he had four grown-up children, she was prepared to face the daunting challenge and manage them no matter the problems they posed.
She said the husband was very sick when she met him but through her tender care, she was able to help him to recover within a short time for which the man remains grateful.
Will this relationship last considering the age difference?
Beatrice
Dear Beatrice,
Each person has a unique character and if well projected and utilised will enable that individual to attain great heights in society. This unique character is being displayed to perfection by your friend.
Your friend might have developed some special love and care for the husband, and being a fountain of love for the husband, this might have resuscitated him.
Care for the elderly is one of the greatest ‘medicines’ the healthy and energetic relatives ought to give them.
Many people who had no specific care and for that matter were left unaided died as a result. Their lives could have been prolonged if they had people around them to provide for their basic needs.
Six months after marriage, I realised my wife had cheated twice. One happened months before marriage and the other happened just two months after marriage. We dated for four years before we got married.
She had saved the name on her phone as Chairman. The conversation between them didn’t happen every day but once they talked, everything was about sex. My wife encouraged every word and even made suggestions as to where to meet.
I want to meet ‘Chairman,’ is it a good or a bad idea?
Yoofi, Takoradi.
Dear Yoofi,
What you have discovered is deeply painful, especially after investing four years of dating and entering marriage with trust, love and commitment. Betrayal in marriage is not only about the physical act, but also the emotional damage, secrecy and broken trust that come with it.
At this point, it is important not to make decisions purely out of anger or revenge. You need clarity, honest and calm conversations. Your wife must first be willing to tell the whole truth and take responsibility for her actions without excuses.
However, before deciding whether to stay or leave, ask yourself some important questions. Is she willing to cut ties completely with this man? Is she ready to rebuild trust through openness and accountability? And most importantly, do you still see a future with her despite the hurt?
Healing from infidelity takes time, patience and sometimes professional counselling. Do not suffer in silence. Speak to a trusted counsellor, pastor or matured family person who can guide both of you wisely.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 28 years old guy who has been posted as a trained teacher in one of the rural areas in the Central Region.
I didn’t move in with my family because of the nature of my wife’s job.
About two months ago, I befriended one of the students who run errands for me. One thing led to the other and mistakenly had my way with her.
After two weeks, the girl came to tell me that she was pregnant and that I should give her money to terminate the pregnancy because if her parents get to know of it, they would cause my arrest.
This got me disturbed because I might lose [u1] my job.
Upon a second thought, I discussed this with a friend and she told me it might be a plan to extort money from me.
I personally texted her not to terminate the pregnancy but interestingly, I received a response that she has seen her monthly flow.
In fact, I became convinced about what my colleague told me. I want to end the relationship, what should I tell her and what should be my response when my wife hears of it.
Obaa Yaa, please I need an urgent advice.
David, Tema.
Dear David,
Your case is a very simple one. You are even lucky your friend who is much acquainted with the chicanery of the local girls fortunately hinted you and the girl has confirmed it all.
You better quit that relationship and avoid her because she thinks about following you home.
If you haven’t told her you are married, please tell her now.
