Obaa Yaa
Will you accept 26 years difference for couple?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When l first heard that an elderly man was dating my best friend, l did not believe it, considering the sort of person she is and the ideals she stands for in life.
However, l was faced with realities when l met the two of them in town, apparently they came to purchase a few items. I took the opportunity and pressed to hear from the horse’s own mouth and she did not feel shy to confirm it.
The age difference of the two of them is about 26 years and she did not find anything wrong with that. In my conversation with her, she told me that though the age difference was that much, she loved her husband despite the fact that he had four grown-up children, she was prepared to face the daunting challenge and manage them no matter the problems they posed.
She said the husband was very sick when she met him but through her tender care, she was able to help him to recover within a short time for which the man remains grateful.
Will this relationship last considering the age difference?
Beatrice
Dear Beatrice,
Each person has a unique character and if well projected and utilised will enable that individual to attain great heights in society. This unique character is being displayed to perfection by your friend.
Your friend might have developed some special love and care for the husband, and being a fountain of love for the husband, this might have resuscitated him.
Care for the elderly is one of the greatest ‘medicines’ the healthy and energetic relatives ought to give them.
Many people who had no specific care and for that matter were left unaided died as a result. Their lives could have been prolonged if they had people around them to provide for their basic needs.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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