Obaa Yaa
What step should l take?
What step should l take?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I was in a relationship with a lady for about five months and in the sixth month she suggested that we should break- up the relationship.
According to her, her elder sister had informed their parents about our friendship, hence her decision to end our friendship at that point.
I called the sister to find out why she had gone to that extent but she said she could not do such a thing against me. She went further to reveal to me certain behaviour my lady was putting up.
I did everything l could to make her come back to me but she has refused to listen to my persuasive words.
I am confused and do not know what to do at the moment. Please help me.
Dear Reuben,
We are sorry to say that per our policy, we only publish the first names of people who send letters to us and not the full names in order to conceal their identity and not to expose them to public ridicule.
Marriage is contracted between two consenting adults and that people should not be coerced into it.
In marriage situations, central factors which make marriages to work are unconditional love, forgiveness and the spirit of tolerance which make marriages to blossom.
If within these few months your fiancé cannot be truthful, then it is an indication that she does not love you and the future would be bleak.
This behaviour is to serve as a warning to you that the lady does not love you, therefore, you should not hesitate to take a different plan. Such a relationship has no future because your sister-in-law to
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 20 and she is 19. We have been lovers for the past four months and have promised to get married to each other.
We love each other badly that one cannot leave the other for long. Our relatives know about our affair except her grandmother who will be in the country soon.
My problem is that, I doubt if the grandmother will be excited about this relationship. Her grandmother is very strict and I doubt if this relationship can be successful.
Her grandmother has been like a mother and everything to her, so her final decision may count.
We have promised each other to stay holy and clean.
Lartey,
Sunyani
Dear Lartey,
I don’t think your fears are justified if the girl’s parent do not object to your relationship with her.
What makes you think her grandmother will oppose the relationship if her parents endorse it?
Be positive about the relationship. There is no cause for alarm.
I am very happy you guys are staying holy and clean until marriage.
Both of you are student and need to be careful about any decision you take.
I believe you should try as much as possible to support each other and stay away from any negative act.
I have a girlfriend who is ‘allergic’ to me and ‘allergic’ to men in general.
Because of this, I barely touch her. I do not sit too close to her. I do not even hold her hands for long.
We have tried before. Even recently, we tried again. At first, things looked normal.
Then suddenly she lifted her hands and started scratching her back aggressively. We stopped immediately. Moments later, she ran to the bathroom and started vomiting.
She spent almost four hours there, weak, nauseous, and drained.
Watching someone you love suffer while you cannot do anything about it is painful. Is it a curse or an allergy?
Hello Christian,
What you’re describing sounds frightening and emotionally exhausting for both of you. But it is important not to jump to the idea of a curse.
Severe reactions after touch, closeness, stress, or intimacy can sometimes be linked to medical conditions, allergies, anxiety responses, trauma, or psychosomatic reactions.
The safest and most loving step is encouraging her to see qualified doctors, especially an allergist and mental health professional, so the cause can be properly understood.
Your patience already shows deep care. Do not blame yourself or search for supernatural explanations first.
Focus on support, medical guidance, emotional safety, and honest communication while protecting both her health and your relationship.
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