Obaa Yaa
Stepson comes with blessings
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been married for five years without a child and as usual people gave us names and tried to ridicule us.
Though we were in hard times and it was extremely difficult to obtain a square meal, l was more surprised to learn that in the midst of all these problems, my husband had gone to impregnate a young lady and the parents had threatened to report the matter to the police.
Following this incident, an elderly woman in the area came to whisper into my ears that though difficult to bear, l should not get angry since this unfortunate incident could bring about a turning point in my marriage. Initially, l considered the piece of advice from the old woman a trash.
While some blamed my husband for the mess he had caused, others were quick to say that he was justified because l could not conceive.
I lost appetite for food and the whole world seemed to be crumbling over my head. Under the circumstance, several issues came to my mind and the idea of divorce stood tall among the options.
There was no peace in the house a few days following this shocker from my husband. Having thought about it, l could not believe it and contemplated divorce in order to have my peace.
One early morning, I was surprised when the old woman came to our house again and asked me to forget about divorce, and ended with these words, “Treat this child with love and one day you will reap the immense benefits”.
After this child was fully integrated into the family, my husband got a job, l became pregnant and ever since there is absolute peace in the family. Thanks to the good counsel of the old lady who calmed the raging tempers in the family.
I wish to use this column to advise wives to remain patient when matters go bad.
Faustina, Accra.
Dear Faustina,
I am extremely glad about this wonderful piece of information which will help calm raging tempers in families when such issues occur.
My conviction is that it is always advisable to listen to good counsel whenever there is a problem and take the right decision.
This should not be misconstrued as supporting husbands who indulge in extra-marital affairs.
I wish to commend Madam Faustina for the demonstration of tolerance and love for the little boy. Having gotten a child, she must not change her attitude towards this boy.
Obaa Yaa
Must a young worker always keep quiet?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I need your advice on something I have been experiencing at work. I am a young employee working in an organisation where most of the people in leadership positions are much older than me.
I respect their experience and authority, but sometimes I feel that being young means my opinions are automatically treated as less important.
There are situations where I have noticed problems with the way certain things are done. I have also had ideas that I believe could improve some of our processes. But whenever I try to raise them, I am sometimes told that I am too young to understand how things work.
Recently, I made a suggestion during a meeting, and instead of discussing the idea, my supervisor asked me how long I have been working in the organisation.
I understand that experience matters. Leadership also requires wisdom and maturity. But does being young mean we should remain silent until we become older?
What worries me most is that many young employees around me have good ideas but are afraid to speak. They fear being labelled disrespectful, difficult or rebellious. Some simply keep quiet and do what they are told, even when they know something could be done better.
Obaa Yaa, where should the balance be between respecting leadership and speaking up? Should young employees simply follow instructions, or should leaders create an environment where young workers can question, contribute and even challenge ideas respectfully?
Alfred, Amasaman.
Dear Alfred,
A young worker should respect experience and authority, but leadership should also judge ideas on their merit rather than the age of the person presenting them.
Being young does not mean you have nothing valuable to contribute. At the same time, being experienced does not mean an older person is always right. The workplace needs both experience and fresh ideas.
Your responsibility as a young employee is not to remain silent, but to learn how to speak in a way that demonstrates respect, professionalism and maturity.
When you identify a problem, avoid approaching your supervisor as though you have discovered a mistake they were too ignorant to notice. Instead, explain the issue respectfully and, where possible, present a practical solution.
That approach does not undermine authority. It demonstrates initiative.
And leaders should create room for young employees to contribute without making them feel that speaking up is an act of disrespect.
Don’t keep quiet just because you are young. Learn, listen, respect authority and speak up when you have something meaningful to contribute.
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Obaa Yaa
I hold a Master’s degree, but I can’t find a job
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I hold a Master’s degree from the Pentecost University, yet I am struggling to find a job.
For years, I believed pursing my Master’s degree could find me a better job but today, I have still not found one.
I have been applying for jobs almost every week. I have sent my curriculum vitae to different companies, attended interviews and even applied for positions that are not directly related to what I studied.
But the response is almost always the same, we need someone with experience. How am I supposed to get experience when nobody is willing to give me the first opportunity?
The most interesting thing is that some of my classmates are already employed, while others are travelling or in booming businesses. I don’t want to give up, but the constant rejection is becoming frustrating.
Obaa Yaa, what should a young graduate do when qualifications are not enough and experience is required before anyone gives you a chance?
Elorm, Ho.
Dear Elorm
If you already have a Master’s degree and still unemployed, the focus should not be positioning yourself for other opportunities.
Stop sending same CV, each tailored to a specific type of job. Your CV should highlight what you can do, not only the degrees you have.
Don’t wait for the perfect job. Take internships, short term contracts, research projects or volunteer positions that can give experience and contact while you continue searching.
Most importantly, don’t interpret unemployment to mean that your Master’s degree is useless. The problem may be the way your qualification is being presented, regarding the type of jobs you are targeting.
Also, you can start up something small as a side business to enable you get enough income.
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