Relationship
Some communication games for couples to grow closer
Maintain effective communication
Two truths and a lie
Looking for communication games to get to know your partner better?
To play two truths and a lie, your partner and you will take turns sharing one false and two things that are true about you. The other needs to guess which is a lie. Communication games are a great opportunity to learn more about each other.
Answer the famous 36 questions
Perhaps you want a couples question game?
The famous 36 questions were created in a study exploring how intimacy is built. Communication is the key component of it since we grow fond of each other when we share. As you move through the questions, they become more personal and profound. Take turns, answering them, and observe how your understanding grows with each one.
The game of truth
If you need simple yet effective communication games for couples, try the game of truth. All you need to do is ask your partner questions and answer his/her questions honestly. You can play with the topics of the game going from light (such as favorites movie, book, childhood crush) to more heavy (such as fears, hopes, and dreams). Some questions to consider:
What’s your biggest fear?
If you had a magic wand, what would you use it for?
What is your favorite childhood memory?
What book had a transformational power for you?
What would you improve in our communication?
The 7 breath-forehead connection
Communication games for couples can inspire you to be more in sync with your partner and pick up on non-verbal cues better.
To play this game, you need to lie down next to each other and gently put your foreheads together. While you look into each other’s eyes, stay in this position for at least 7 breaths or more. This game increases a sense of connection and non-verbal understanding.
This or that
If you need communication games to get to know your partner better, especially early in the relationship, here is a fun game. Simply ask for their preference between two choices. Don’t forget to ask why they chose something. Some questions to get you started:
TV or books?
Indoors or outdoors?
Save or spend?
Lust or love?
Forgotten Or Remembered For All The Wrong Reasons?
How well do you know me?
Some communication games meant for parties can be adapted for you two. To play this game, you need to think of different categories and questions (for example, favorite movie, best vacation, favorite color). Both partners will answer the questions for themselves (write on one piece of paper) and their loved ones (use a different piece).
The answers are compared in the end to see what correct answers about the other person you had. To make it more fun, have a wager who will guess more and household chores can be the currency.
To be continued…
Parenting teens can be challenging. But it can also be a joy. The key is to know how to care for yourself, first and foremost. Before you have children, you might think that parenting will come naturally. And, to some degree, it does. But there are days (and sometimes months and years) when all parents could use some extra support.
Last week we looked at some four simple yet powerful approaches for parenting teens that build strong relationships for the long-run. Here are the remaining two:
4: Keep communication going
Because we are often busy and distracted, we do not always take the time to really focus on our kids when they’re trying to tell us something. Take advantage of the time you have together. Having dinner together as a family, using car time to talk, or chatting before bed are good ways to stay in daily touch with your teen. Prioritise quality time as well as quantity: Consider having breakfast out on the weekend as a special catch-up time to chat about the week. Or schedule monthly “family meetings” to discuss how things have been going and any conflicts that have arisen.
5. Be an empathetic listener
Listening with empathy and caring is one of the most important tips on parenting a teenager. Researchers have shown that people’s brain patterns synchronise when they listen closely to one another and watch each other’s expressions. As a result, the connection between them becomes stronger. Not feeling truly heard can lead to isolation and lack of self-esteem which are the root causes of anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. Therefore, take listening seriously. It’s not just a way of coping with teenagers; it has an enormous impact on their well-being.
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SHE did not find out he was cheating. She found out he was drowning.
It was two weeks after their beautiful wedding. The jollof was still in the fridge. A loan officer called her number—not his—and politely asked, “Madam, please tell your husband to pay his overdue loan. We have been calling him.”
That was how she discovered her new husband had entered their marriage with a hidden debt of over GH¢40,000. No cheating. No other woman. Just a financial secret.
And that is how many Ghanaian marriages begin to die. Not with a shout, but with a secret alert on a phone.
In my therapy/counselling office in Accra, week after week, I sit with couples whose marriages are not broken by infidelity, but by invoices. If you ask me what is quietly killing Ghanaian marriages today, I will tell you without blinking: it is not that love has died; it is that money honesty never lived.
We prepare for the wedding. We do not prepare for the wallet.
What is money honesty?
Let me define it simply. Money honesty is not that you both earn the same. It is that you both know the same. It is the ability to sit down and say without fear:
“This is how much I earn.”
“This is how much I owe.”
“This is how I was raised to see money.”
“This is what scares me about money.”
Financial transparency is not about control. It is about clarity. You cannot build trust on top of secrets.
Many couples tell me, “Counselor, we love each other, love will handle money.” I always answer, “Love is the car, but money honesty is the fuel. Love without honesty cannot move.”
Why do Ghanaian partners hide money?
From my clinical observation, it is not always wickedness. It is often woundedness.
1. The fear of losing power: Especially for men, money is seen as power. “If she knows how much I have, she will control me or disrespect me.” So he hides.
2. Family entanglement: “If my wife knows I give my mother GH¢1,500 every month, there will be trouble.” So he creates a second MoMo account. Many Ghanaian marriages have three accounts—his, hers, and the secret family one.
3. Past trauma: A woman who grew up in a home where her mother begged for chop money will never be honest about her savings. She is not greedy. She is scared. She is saving for her survival.
4. Debt shame: In Ghana today, with easy access to Qwikloan, Fido, and bank salary loans, many young men and women enter marriage already drowning in debt. They hide it because they feel, “If I tell him/her, they won’t marry me.”
So the hiding begins. And that is where the insurance lapses.
The 3 Devastating Prices You Pay For Financial Secrecy
Research from Kansas State University found that arguments about money are the number one predictor of divorce, more than arguments about children, in-laws, or sex. Why? Because money arguments are never about money. They are about trust, respect, and security.
Price 1: It destroys trust faster than infidelity.
When you discover your spouse has a secret child, you are hurt. When you discover your spouse has a secret debt that loan officers are now chasing YOU for, you feel betrayed and foolish. Clients tell me, “Counselor, I can forgive cheating, but I cannot forgive that he made me look like a fool at the bank.”
Price 2: It creates chronic anxiety in your home.
A home where money is a mystery is a home where no one sleeps well. The wife is always checking his phone not for other women, but for loan alerts. The husband is always anxious when his wife says, “Can we talk?” You cannot have intimacy where there is financial anxiety.
Price 3: It teaches your children to lie.
Children are watching. When daddy says, “Tell anyone who calls that I am not around because of money,” you are teaching your son that lying about money is normal. We are raising a generation of financially dishonest partners.
