Relationship
Some communication games for couples to grow closer
Maintain effective communication
If you and your spouse aren’t communicating well, it bleeds into everything else: If communication in your marriage isn’t as strong as you want it to be, working on it is a top priority. When you have good communication, you both benefit. You’ll feel closer to each other, and your marriage will be stronger and more affectionate as a result.
But sometimes, fixing communication issues feel like an uphill battle. It’s so easy to get caught up in trying to fix it, and before you know, everything revolves around the problems, and it can feel like you’re both getting weighed down.
Improving communication doesn’t need to be a struggle. Instead, why not try playing some communication games? They’re a cute, fun way to help fix communication struggles in marriages. All that’s needed is the two of you, some free time, and the willingness to play and have fun in the interest of growing closer.
•20 questions
This game is an easy way to learn more about your partner without pressure or focusing only on the hard stuff.
All you need is a list of 20 questions – of course, those questions can be anything you would like! Why not try some of the following suggestions:
What’s your favourite of all the dates we’ve been on together?
When do you feel most confident?
What’s your fondest childhood tradition?
When do you feel most loved and appreciated by me?
Where do you see yourself in five years?
What would you like to do that you’ve never told anyone before?
When have you felt proud of yourself?
Asking questions gives you insight into your partner’s thoughts, beliefs, dreams, and values. Then when the time comes to swap, they’ll get to learn more about you, too.
Try playing this communication game for couples when you have free time in the evenings or over the weekend, or even in the car. It can make a real impact on your communication levels. It can make a real impact on your communication levels.
•Minefield
A combination of physical and verbal games is the best if you want to work on bad communication in marriage. Minefield is a game where one of the partners is blindfolded and guided verbally through the room by the other.
The goal of the game is to get the blindfolded partner safely across the room by using verbal cues to avoid the obstacles, aka mines, you set ahead. This fun communication game for couples requires you to trust each other and be precise when instructing to achieve the goal.
•Helping hand
How to fix communication issues in a relationship?
There are fun communication exercises for couples that help you improve your skills. One of the games to help couples communicate is “Helping hand” that seems rather easy, but this game for married couples can be quite frustrating.
The goal is to accomplish an everyday activity such as buttoning a shirt or tying a shoe while each has a hand tied behind their back. It provides a chance to build effective teamwork and information exchange through seemingly simple tasks.
•Guess the emotion
A significant part of our communication happens non-verbally, opt for some relationship communication games that help you improve that aspect. To play the Guess the emotion game, you both need to write emotions and place them in a box.
To be continued…
Parenting teens can be challenging. But it can also be a joy. The key is to know how to care for yourself, first and foremost. Before you have children, you might think that parenting will come naturally. And, to some degree, it does. But there are days (and sometimes months and years) when all parents could use some extra support.
Last week we looked at some four simple yet powerful approaches for parenting teens that build strong relationships for the long-run. Here are the remaining two:
4: Keep communication going
Because we are often busy and distracted, we do not always take the time to really focus on our kids when they’re trying to tell us something. Take advantage of the time you have together. Having dinner together as a family, using car time to talk, or chatting before bed are good ways to stay in daily touch with your teen. Prioritise quality time as well as quantity: Consider having breakfast out on the weekend as a special catch-up time to chat about the week. Or schedule monthly “family meetings” to discuss how things have been going and any conflicts that have arisen.
5. Be an empathetic listener
Listening with empathy and caring is one of the most important tips on parenting a teenager. Researchers have shown that people’s brain patterns synchronise when they listen closely to one another and watch each other’s expressions. As a result, the connection between them becomes stronger. Not feeling truly heard can lead to isolation and lack of self-esteem which are the root causes of anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. Therefore, take listening seriously. It’s not just a way of coping with teenagers; it has an enormous impact on their well-being.
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SHE did not find out he was cheating. She found out he was drowning.
It was two weeks after their beautiful wedding. The jollof was still in the fridge. A loan officer called her number—not his—and politely asked, “Madam, please tell your husband to pay his overdue loan. We have been calling him.”
That was how she discovered her new husband had entered their marriage with a hidden debt of over GH¢40,000. No cheating. No other woman. Just a financial secret.
And that is how many Ghanaian marriages begin to die. Not with a shout, but with a secret alert on a phone.
In my therapy/counselling office in Accra, week after week, I sit with couples whose marriages are not broken by infidelity, but by invoices. If you ask me what is quietly killing Ghanaian marriages today, I will tell you without blinking: it is not that love has died; it is that money honesty never lived.
We prepare for the wedding. We do not prepare for the wallet.
What is money honesty?
Let me define it simply. Money honesty is not that you both earn the same. It is that you both know the same. It is the ability to sit down and say without fear:
“This is how much I earn.”
“This is how much I owe.”
“This is how I was raised to see money.”
“This is what scares me about money.”
Financial transparency is not about control. It is about clarity. You cannot build trust on top of secrets.
Many couples tell me, “Counselor, we love each other, love will handle money.” I always answer, “Love is the car, but money honesty is the fuel. Love without honesty cannot move.”
Why do Ghanaian partners hide money?
From my clinical observation, it is not always wickedness. It is often woundedness.
1. The fear of losing power: Especially for men, money is seen as power. “If she knows how much I have, she will control me or disrespect me.” So he hides.
2. Family entanglement: “If my wife knows I give my mother GH¢1,500 every month, there will be trouble.” So he creates a second MoMo account. Many Ghanaian marriages have three accounts—his, hers, and the secret family one.
3. Past trauma: A woman who grew up in a home where her mother begged for chop money will never be honest about her savings. She is not greedy. She is scared. She is saving for her survival.
4. Debt shame: In Ghana today, with easy access to Qwikloan, Fido, and bank salary loans, many young men and women enter marriage already drowning in debt. They hide it because they feel, “If I tell him/her, they won’t marry me.”
So the hiding begins. And that is where the insurance lapses.
The 3 Devastating Prices You Pay For Financial Secrecy
Research from Kansas State University found that arguments about money are the number one predictor of divorce, more than arguments about children, in-laws, or sex. Why? Because money arguments are never about money. They are about trust, respect, and security.
Price 1: It destroys trust faster than infidelity.
When you discover your spouse has a secret child, you are hurt. When you discover your spouse has a secret debt that loan officers are now chasing YOU for, you feel betrayed and foolish. Clients tell me, “Counselor, I can forgive cheating, but I cannot forgive that he made me look like a fool at the bank.”
Price 2: It creates chronic anxiety in your home.
A home where money is a mystery is a home where no one sleeps well. The wife is always checking his phone not for other women, but for loan alerts. The husband is always anxious when his wife says, “Can we talk?” You cannot have intimacy where there is financial anxiety.
Price 3: It teaches your children to lie.
Children are watching. When daddy says, “Tell anyone who calls that I am not around because of money,” you are teaching your son that lying about money is normal. We are raising a generation of financially dishonest partners.
