Obaa Yaa
Should I wait for him
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been in a relationship with a guy for the past two years and the only relative he introduced me to, was his uncle.
A month to our wedding, I realised our communication style began to go sour as we didn’t talk like we used to. Three days to our wedding, I didn’t hear from him and all the communication channels I tried, proved futile. Therefore, I cancelled the marriage and till date i have not heard from him.
Months later, I chanced upon him and his family (wife and children) at the mall. He begged me not to create a scene, therefore we agreed to meet later that evening.
When we met, he confessed that I was the one whom he dearly loved however, he was with the woman for some benefits. Thus, he would divorce her after claiming the benefits.
Please do you think I should wait for him?
Abena Tetteh,
Prampram.
Dear Abena,
Marriage is principally based on trust, mutual love and tolerance, therefore, if these points are missing, those involved in the marriage are bound to face challenges.
Thank God that you have identified the true nature of this false lover.
It is not true that he will marry you when he gets the benefits he is looking for.
Do not wait for him because it presupposes that he will abandon you in the future if another lover promises him attractive benefits. Keep in mind that he has children.
In your next relationship, try to do detailed background checks on the person before you commit yourself fully.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
