Obaa Yaa
I need forgiveness from my girl friend
I got into a blood covenant with a lady by name Sarah who I was in a relationship with. We sealed this covenant with a padlock and threw it into the sea about 12 years ago deep in the night. She was my first girlfriend and we even have a child together.
Along the line when things began going on well for me, I messed everything up. I could not fulfill any of the promises I made to her during our hard times. So I ended up breaking her heart by marrying another woman.
Life became very difficult for me after marrying the new woman. Finally, I met a man of God and he told me my girlfriend cursed me because I didn’t fulfill any of the promises I made to her.
I am now seeing the traits of the curse controlling my life for the past eight years. My life has been miserable from drinking, bedwetting and now being homeless. I have lost all my investments and everything in my life.
I embarked on finding my first love but a friend told me that my baby mama got married to another man and they both left the country long time ago.
How do I seek forgiveness from my son’s mother?
Samuel, Koforidua.
Dear Samuel,
It is pleasing to note that you are truthful in your presentation.
Making a blood covenant is a serious issue which links you with the devil and it will automatically torment you.
Since the effects of the covenant and the curse are still hanging on your neck, you need a strong man of God to exorcise these powers of darkness to set you free.
You must look for the relatives of your girlfriend to locate her so that you can seek her forgiveness.
The word of God cautions Christians that, “ When you make a vow to God, do not delay in paying it.” It went further to say that God does not take pleasure in fools.
This can be compared with the promise you made to this lady but failed in fulfilling it, thereby, making her angry.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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