Obaa Yaa
Should I build for my mum/family?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Growing up, life has not been easy for my family, especially my mother. Both parents were famers, even when my daddy was alive, it was my mother who made sure we stayed in school.
I nearly gave up on life, but my mother was my pillar and source of inspiration. I nearly drop out of school because of school fees. Anytime I ask my dad for money, he always tells me he doesn’t have.
By the time I completed school and stood on my feet, she has sold all her assets and properties to put me and my siblings through school.
I am now married and doing so well. Daddy is no more. I have told her to relocate to the city so that I can take good care of her, but she has decided to stay in the village.
I am thinking I should invest my resources into building a spacious one bedroom self-contained house for her over there.
I discussed this issue with my wife and she is suggesting we build a family house so that my mother will come and stay in Accra.
Should I build my family house or mother’s house?
Benson, Sunyani.
Dear Benson,
It is very clear you have good intentions. However, prioritise building for your family first. Mummy is old and she needs to be catered for. She can come and stay with your family for some time until she moves to her newly furnished one bedroom.
When she moves in with you, it will lessen your financial burden. Continue to support your mother in the village, give her the best while you can, because she has made you who you are today.
Let your wife be in the known that, your mother will be staying with you. At least she can assist you in taking care of the children to ease some burden.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.
I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.
Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.
Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.
—Esinam, Legon
Dear Esinam,
When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.
Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?
You might also reflect on:
- Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
- Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
- Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
- Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?
Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.
Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.
It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.
The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.
This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.
This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.
Chelsea, Accra.
Dear Chelsea,
Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.
Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.
Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.
Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.
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