Obaa Yaa
She changed after admission to Legon
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a banker working with one of the prestigious banking sectors in Ghana. In 2020, I met a very pretty young lady who had just completed her secondary education and was preparing to proceed to the University of Ghana Legon.
Prior to her entry into Legon, I proposed love to her and she gave in later but on condition that we did not engage in any sexual activity until we are ready to marry.
I fully complied with it and for over two years, we never had sex. In 2023 she finally gained admission into Legon and after three months on campus she started showing signs of disinterest in me, though she has sworn to me that she will never disappoint me in life.
When I demanded to know where I have wronged her, she could not say anything tangible to me. I have done all things to get her attention back but it seems, she has already made up her mind.
After sometime, I also decided to stay away from her though, I did not intend to call it quits until when she got to the second year when we met again and told her of the pain I had gone through.
She sounded encouraging, so we started through to the final year. My problem is that anytime this lady got out of my life, I find it difficult to meet another partner comparable to her. I still love her, what should I do?
Darko, Mankessim.
Dear Darko,
When it comes to love people take it on a smooth journey, others are not lucky.
From the look of things, I can tell that your girlfriend is no more interested in the relationship. She might have another suitor at school.
You made it known to me that you still love her and you want to make her your wife.
In my opinion, if she continues to give you attitude and pretend you don’t exist, kindly walk away for your peace and sanity.
You made a statement that, it is difficult to get a suitor just as your girlfriend. My advice to you is that, don’t rush, relax and give yourself some time to heal. You will definitely find a suitor who will give you peace and love.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
