Obaa Yaa
She changed after admission to Legon
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a banker working with one of the prestigious banking sectors in Ghana. In 2020, I met a very pretty young lady who had just completed her secondary education and was preparing to proceed to the University of Ghana Legon.
Prior to her entry into Legon, I proposed love to her and she gave in later but on condition that we did not engage in any sexual activity until we are ready to marry.
I fully complied with it and for over two years, we never had sex. In 2023 she finally gained admission into Legon and after three months on campus she started showing signs of disinterest in me, though she has sworn to me that she will never disappoint me in life.
When I demanded to know where I have wronged her, she could not say anything tangible to me. I have done all things to get her attention back but it seems, she has already made up her mind.
After sometime, I also decided to stay away from her though, I did not intend to call it quits until when she got to the second year when we met again and told her of the pain I had gone through.
She sounded encouraging, so we started through to the final year. My problem is that anytime this lady got out of my life, I find it difficult to meet another partner comparable to her. I still love her, what should I do?
Darko, Mankessim.
Dear Darko,
When it comes to love people take it on a smooth journey, others are not lucky.
From the look of things, I can tell that your girlfriend is no more interested in the relationship. She might have another suitor at school.
You made it known to me that you still love her and you want to make her your wife.
In my opinion, if she continues to give you attitude and pretend you don’t exist, kindly walk away for your peace and sanity.
You made a statement that, it is difficult to get a suitor just as your girlfriend. My advice to you is that, don’t rush, relax and give yourself some time to heal. You will definitely find a suitor who will give you peace and love.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 20 and she is 19. We have been lovers for the past four months and have promised to get married to each other.
We love each other badly that one cannot leave the other for long. Our relatives know about our affair except her grandmother who will be in the country soon.
My problem is that, I doubt if the grandmother will be excited about this relationship. Her grandmother is very strict and I doubt if this relationship can be successful.
Her grandmother has been like a mother and everything to her, so her final decision may count.
We have promised each other to stay holy and clean.
Lartey,
Sunyani
Dear Lartey,
I don’t think your fears are justified if the girl’s parent do not object to your relationship with her.
What makes you think her grandmother will oppose the relationship if her parents endorse it?
Be positive about the relationship. There is no cause for alarm.
I am very happy you guys are staying holy and clean until marriage.
Both of you are student and need to be careful about any decision you take.
I believe you should try as much as possible to support each other and stay away from any negative act.
I have a girlfriend who is ‘allergic’ to me and ‘allergic’ to men in general.
Because of this, I barely touch her. I do not sit too close to her. I do not even hold her hands for long.
We have tried before. Even recently, we tried again. At first, things looked normal.
Then suddenly she lifted her hands and started scratching her back aggressively. We stopped immediately. Moments later, she ran to the bathroom and started vomiting.
She spent almost four hours there, weak, nauseous, and drained.
Watching someone you love suffer while you cannot do anything about it is painful. Is it a curse or an allergy?
Hello Christian,
What you’re describing sounds frightening and emotionally exhausting for both of you. But it is important not to jump to the idea of a curse.
Severe reactions after touch, closeness, stress, or intimacy can sometimes be linked to medical conditions, allergies, anxiety responses, trauma, or psychosomatic reactions.
The safest and most loving step is encouraging her to see qualified doctors, especially an allergist and mental health professional, so the cause can be properly understood.
Your patience already shows deep care. Do not blame yourself or search for supernatural explanations first.
Focus on support, medical guidance, emotional safety, and honest communication while protecting both her health and your relationship.
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