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Outmoded cultural practices: …widow recounts harrowing experience

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A 37-year-old trader has shared her experience on widowhood and called on society to be more humane towards women who find themselves in that state.

She says it is unfortunate that in the Ghanaian society, anytime a husband dies regardless of the circumstances, the widow is fingered as the killer of the man by her in-laws.

“Some of them wanted to take me to my late husband’s grave at night to bathe me with water used to clean his dead body, so I ran away with my two children,” she recounted in an interview with the Spectator on condition of anonymity, on Monday.

She disclosed that the water they were going to use had been stored for three days and the bathe was ostensibly to cleanse her so that no “bad luck” could come to her.

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She said when she received the message from a “good samaritan” about the intentions of some of her in-laws to take her through that ritual, she was baffled because both her family and that of her late husband had agreed that there would be no such widowhood rites because her husband died as a Christian. 

“I was not going to allow myself to go through that when I heard that the water had been mixed with some substances to make me mad and even cause my death in six months (to confirm the suspicion that I killed my husband) and make my children orphans,” she said.

She questioned why any woman in her right frame of mind who was together with her man raising children and struggling to even pay bills, could take the life of her husband.

“Imagine single handedly paying bills and taking care of two children aged three and eight under this economy?” she questioned. 

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The trader said her husband did not own any property to even motivate her to termination his life in the first place and that their rent had even expired at the time of his death.

“He was involved in a road crash but I was shocked to hear that because I did not give him his peace of mind, that is why he became absent minded when crossing the street and was knocked down,” she said.

She said the back and forth with the family about the death of her husband, preparations towards his burial and life after, had seriously affected her mental health.

“The fact that they even wanted to take my children from me because they said I did not have the financial muscle to take care of them and also that the children belonged to her late husband’s family was most torturing” she disclosed. 

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She said it was interesting that she and her children were asked to pay GH¢1,000 for the funeral and when they incurred a debt the family again told her to pay about GH¢4,000 more though they did not allow her guests to eat the food they prepared for those who attended her husband’s funeral.

The woman said she had been denied access to her late husband’s shop but the family was unwilling to give any financial support to cater for the children.

She said she was never going to allow anyone to take her children from her but feared she might lose the strength to fight them along the line and wished she could get help from the public to keep her in-laws away. 

“I need legal advice and action to protect my children and I” she pleaded.

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From Dzifa Tetteh Tay, Tema.

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Thousands bid farewell at 3-day Adua for Late Yaa Naa

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The forecourt of the Gbewaa Palace, was a mixture of rich tradition and emotional scenes as thousands of mourners concluded the three-day adua for the late Overlord of Dagbon, Ndan Yaa Naa Abukari II.

For the period, the Gbewaa Palace became the spiritual and cultural heartbeat of the Dagbon Kingdom as Islamic clerics, traditional rulers, politicians, security personnel and ordinary citizens united in prayer for the repose of the soul of the revered monarch.

From dawn each day, streams of mourners, mostly dressed in traditional smocks and black attire, steadily filled the palace grounds and adjoining streets, transforming the royal seat into a sea of mourners.

Men, women, youth and children sat under canopies and open spaces while verses from the Holy Qur’an echoed across the palace, creating an atmosphere of reverence and reflection.

The air occasionally reverberated with ceremonial gunshots and traditional warrior displays, symbolising honour, bravery and the rich cultural heritage of the Dagbon Kingdom.

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The adua, observed in accordance with Islamic tradition following the burial of the Yaa Naa, was attended by eminent Imams and Mallams who offered continuous prayers, seeking Allah’s mercy and eternal peace for the departed King.

Throughout the three-day observance, a steady flow of dignitaries visited the Gbewaa Palace to pay their respects and sign the book of condolence.

Among them were the Northern Regional Minister, Ali Adolf John Mburidiba; the Savannah Regional Minister, Salisu Be-Awuribe Issifu; and the National Chairman of the National Democratic Congress (NDC), Johnson Asiedu Nketia, who joined members of the royal family, traditional rulers and mourners in honouring the late Yaa Naa.

Security remained tight throughout the mourning period, with the Ghana Police Service deploying 450 personnel to ensure law and order.

The officers were stationed at strategic locations, including the Gbewaa Palace, major entry points into Yendi and other key installations, where they managed traffic, maintained public order and provided security for thousands of mourners and visiting dignitaries.

Beyond the official ceremonies, the event reflected the deep respect the people of Dagbon and Ghanaians at large had for the late monarch.

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The conclusion of the three-day adua marks another important milestone in the funeral rites of the late Yaa Naa and signals the gradual transition towards the customary processes leading to the selection and enskinment of a new Overlord of the Dagbon Kingdom.

Although the formal three-day prayers have ended, mourning activities continue, with the seventh-day Islamic prayers expected to draw another large gathering of traditional authorities, government officials, religious leaders and well-wishers from across the country.

From: Geoffrey Buta, Yendi

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Seek regular medical eye care for children- Parent told

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Seek regular medical eye care for children- Parent told

An Optometrist, Dr Adjoa Pokua Osae Awulai has called on parents to take keen interest in regularly presenting their wards for eye screening.

That, he said, would help with early detection of defects or abnormalities with the eye and seek lasting solution for them. 

Dr Osae Awulai made the call at the 13th graduation ceremony of the 3 Garrison Early Childhood Development Centre, Liberation Barracks in Sunyani where a total of 106 pupils made up 50 boys and 56 girls graduated. 

According to her, problems with the eye have usually been ignored by some parents that preferred to self-medicate and in the process, making the condition worse.

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But she stated that the eye was an important organ that must be treated or handled with extreme care.

According to Dr Awulai, the first eye examination must actually start from birth to six months, adding that “this must be done at least twice in a year.” 

This, according to her, was a significant step in improving the wellbeing and academic performance of the children as they grow.

She explained that kids with eye defects develop low self-esteem, lack confidence and perform poorly in school due to their condition. 

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Dr Awulai said despite her regular school visits to sensitise and create awareness on eye health and safety, most people are just reluctant and find excuses not to seek medical care. 

“Some people have become so superstitious; they hold on to their religious beliefs rather than seeking medical care,” she said and urged parents to be regular and intentional about problems with their wards eyes. 

She commended the management and staff of the 3 Garrison Early Childhood Development Centre for the care, sacrifice, love, and compassion for the training of the school children. 

The Headmistress of 3Garrison Early Childhood Development Centre Mrs Helen Korkor Bamfo appealed to parents and teachers to show and demonstrate love, care, patience, and empathy in nurturing the young children.

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This she said is a responsibility that must guide every efforts being made to train the future leaders of our dear country. 

Mrs Bamfo said training kids with creative skills encompasses providing the essential support and nourishment conducive for developing their cognitive, social, emotional, spiritual and problem solving skills. 

Lt. Michael Tetteh, who represented the Commanding Officer of 3BN Lt Col. Michael Naar, appealed to fathers to make their presence count, indicating that “it is critical in raising children.” 

Lt. Tetteh praised the teachers for their professionalism and selfless dedication to duty. 

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The school pupils entertained their parents and guests with choreographed dances and poetry recitals at the ceremony.

From Daniel Dzirasah, Sunyani 

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