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Odartey’s marital saga: Is it the case of ‘fear women’?

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Many Ghanaians are still expressing ‘hot’ anger over the contents of Gloria Appiah’s writs attempting to claim substantial part of her former husband’s cash and properties.

‘Unfortunately’ , some Ghanaians including some women, also describe the conduct of Gloria Appiah,  per her writs,  in  unprintable phrases while others simply say, she exhibits traces of ‘stupidity’ and  ‘shamelessness’.

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The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines ‘shamelessness’ as, insensible to disgrace and having no shame.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary calls a shameless person, audacious, bold, brash, brazen, unprincipled, outrageous and immodest.

Wikipedia also defines ‘stupidity’ as,  a  behaviour that shows a lack of  good sense or judgement. Synonyms for stupidity include, absurdity, silliness, idiocy, foolishness and asininity.

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Readers, who is Gloria Appiah? She is the former wife of Ghana’s football icon, Nii Odartey Lamptey.

Reportedly, the Supreme Court on 2nd March, 2022, upheld an earlier  Appeal Court decision ordering Gloria Appiah to vacate Odartey Lamptey’s seven-bedroom house located at East Legon in Accra.

Odartey says:” I have been in a rented accommodation in Accra for so many years now since the first court ruling, while my ex-wife is still living in my seven-bedroom house , in addition to the four-bedroom house she has been given by the court.”

Odartey adds:”Sometimes , I shed tears in pain when I’m alone in my room.”

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Records indicate that in September 2013, Gloria Appiah filed a writ at an Accra High Court asking the court to dissolve the marriage between her and Odartey Lamptey.

In the writ, Gloria Appiah stated that her marriage with Odartey had irreparably broken down due to the violent behaviour of her husband.

She accused Odartey of subjecting her and her children to grave emotional and psychological abuse, besides having extra-marital affairs.

Gloria Appiah told the court that she could no longer live with her husband because of his constant false accusations of adultery against her.

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Consequently, she asked the court to order Odartey to pay her a lump sum of GH¢ 500,000.

She again urged the court to equitably divide or distribute a number of landed properties and cash in various bank accounts of Odartey.

In response to Gloria Appiah’s writ, Odartey accepted the fact that the marriage had broken down beyond reconciliation.

He, however, laid the blame on the infidelity of Gloria Appiah and supported his claim with a DNA report on paternity test , which confirmed that he was not the father of all the three children of the 25-year-old marriage.

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In its ruling on 14th June, 2017, the High Court established the fact that the marriage had, indeed, broken down beyond reconciliation.

The court established that the three children of the marriage were not the biological children of Odartey.

The court then ordered Odartey to pay GH¢ 200,000 to Gloria Appiah as financial settlement, besides giving her a- four-bedroom house at Dome in Accra and two vehicles.

For Odartey himself, the court gave him back his seven-bedroom house.

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According to court records, Gloria Appiah disagreed to the decision of the High Court and moved upstairs to the Court of Appeal.

She urged the Court of Appeal to rule that she did not engage in adultery, regarding the conception of the three children of the marriage, insisting that Odartey was very much aware that “the children were not his biological child

 urged the Appeal Court to re-examine the distribution of the properties as per the High Court ruling.

The Court of Appeal stated that the alleged adultery of Gloria Appiah was not a factor in determining the equities of the case.

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Nonetheless, the Court of Appeal said, due regard must be given to the fact that Odartey was not the biological father of the three children and had expended huge sums of money on them over the 21 years of marriage; providing food, shelter and education, besides being with him as he worked and travelled to Holland, Belgium, Italy and the United Kingdom, attending private schools.

On whether Gloria Appiah committed adultery, the Court of Appeal stated that “the Petitioner (Gloria Appiah) during cross examination insists that the children were conceived by a process other than sexual intercourse” with Odartey Lamptey.

However, she flatly refused to answer any further questions on how she conceived her children and told the court that she did not want to talk about the paternity of the children, claiming the issue was a very delicate one.

So, in effect, the fact that Gloria Appiah’s three children were conceived through adultery was not contradicted by her per any court record on evidence.

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Gloria Appiah disregarded the ruling of the High Court and the Court of Appeal and refused to vacate Odartey’s seven-bedroom house after many years of the dissolution of the marriage by the court.

Public reaction on social media to the latest court ruling still in favour of Odartey Lamptey, has been spontaneous and acerbic.

Readers, let’s read a few of them: (1) “The fear of women is the beginning of knowledge; God is not a woman”. (2) “When Odartey’s wife meets Jezebel, what notes will they compare?” (3) “It’s not easy to win a fight with a woman, not any woman, but a Delilah kind of a woman.”(4) “With Odartey’s painful experience, ‘fear women’ must be a wake-up call for some Ghanaian men.”

Indeed, dear readers, with Odartey’s  painful experience ; can it be said that unknowingly,  many married men in Ghana are living with and looking after ‘sons and daughters’  who are sincerely not their biological children?

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Readers, kindly examine the aforementioned ‘simple’ question and attempt to answer it.

My dear readers; I wish you happy, happy, happy EASTER celebration.

Contact email/ WhatsApp of the author:

asmahfrankg@gmail.com (0505556179)

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Traditional values an option for anti-corruption drive — (Part 1)

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One of the issues we have been grappling with as a nation is corruption, and it has had such a devastating effect on our national development. I have been convinced that until morality becomes the foundation upon which our governance system is built, we can never go forward as a nation.

Our traditional practices, which have shaped our cultural beliefs, have always espoused values that have kept us along the straight and the narrow and have preserved our societies since ancient times.

These are values that frown on negative habits like stealing, cheating, greediness, selfishness, etc. Our grandparents have told us stories of societies where stealing was regarded as so shameful that offenders, when caught, have on a number of instances committed suicide.

In fact, my mother told me of a story where a man who was living in the same village as her mother (my grandmother), after having been caught stealing a neighbour’s cockerel, out of shame committed suicide on a mango tree. Those were the days that shameful acts were an abomination.

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Tegare worship, a traditional spiritual worship during which the spirit possesses the Tegare Priest and begins to reveal secrets, was one of the means by which the society upheld African values in the days of my grandmother and the early childhood days of my mother.

Those were the days when the fear of being killed by Tegare prevented people from engaging in anti-social vices. These days, people sleeping with other people’s wives are not uncommon.

These wrongful behaviour was not countenanced at all by Tegare. One was likely going to lose his life on days that Tegare operates, and so unhealthy habits like coveting your neighbour’s wife was a taboo.

Stealing of other people’s farm produce, for instance, could mean certain death or incapacitation of the whole or part of the body in the full glare of everybody. People realised that there were consequences for wrongdoing, and this went a long way to motivate the society to adhere to right values.

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Imagine a President being sworn into office and whoever administers the oath says, “Please say this after me: I, Mr. …., do solemnly swear by God, the spirits of my ancestors and the spirits ruling in Ghana, that should I engage in corrupt acts, may I and my family become crippled, may madness become entrenched in my family, may incurable sicknesses and diseases be my portion and that of my family, both immediate and extended.”

Can you imagine a situation where a few weeks afterwards the President goes to engage in corrupt acts and we hear of his sudden demise or incapacitation and confessing that he engaged in corrupt acts before passing or before the incapacitation—and the effect it will have on his successor? I believe we have to critically examine this option to curb corruption.

My grandmother gave me an eyewitness account of one such encounter where a woman died instantly after the Tegare Priest had revealed a wrong attitude she had displayed during the performance on one of the days scheduled for Tegare spirit manifestation.

According to her story, the Priest, after he had been possessed by the spirit, declared that for what the woman had done, he would not forgive her and that he would kill. Instantly, according to my grandmother, the lady fell down suddenly and she died—just like what happened to Ananias and his wife Sapphira in Acts Chapter 5.

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Emotional distortions:A lethal threat to mental health

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Emotional distortions can indeed have a profound impact on an individual’s mental health and well-being. These distortions can lead to a range of negative consequences, including anxiety, depression, and impaired relationships.

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Improved mental health outcomes: Emotional surgery can help individuals reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression.

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