Obaa Yaa
My husband doubts paternity of our children
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been married for 10 years and blessed with four children – two boys and two girls.
Recently my husband has been making statements suggesting that the children do not resemble him and therefore suspect that l had extra-marital affair.
We went for DNA tests and the results show that the four children are his.
Despite this evidence, he still does not believe it. What should I do because I am getting confused with the situation?
Kruwaa, Taifa.
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Dear Kruwaa,
There is a lot of suspicion in marriage if children do not resemble their fathers. There are similar situations when these children do not resemble their mothers that carried the pregnancy for nine months, yet no one raises any alarm over it.
There are instances where some children resemble relatives of either parents.
When there are doubts, the only accurate means to ascertain the truth is through a DNA test.
If you have gone through this scientific method to verify the paternity of the children and your husband is still not satisfied, then one cannot tell what will convince him.
Once your hands are clean in this matter, remain calm and try to provide the necessary assistance your children need. Since he is still not convinced that the children are his, there is a likelihood that he will not lend his support in their upbringing.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
