Obaa Yaa
I am tired of his lies and empty promises
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship over five years and l am beginning to entertain fears that my lover is deceiving me with unfulfilled promises.
I feel disappointed anytime l remember my past life, especially when l disobeyed my parents and made them to become the laughing stock in the community.
My boyfriend persuaded me to stop school, leave the comfort of my parents’ home, l defied the orders of my parents and foolishly followed him.
Unfortunately, l am now struggling to get my daily bread and things are not going on well with me.
We have aborted two pregnancies and l am entertaining fears that l will be pregnant pretty soon and would be compelled to abort another pregnancy with the excuse that “l am not ready to father a child”.
I am tired of his lies and empty promises and making me a laughing stock in the community.
Though l love him, l have decided to forget about him and return to my parents to plead for forgiveness.
Will my parents take me back?
Alice, Accra.
Dear Alice,
Defying the orders of your parents in the first instance was not good because you have disobeyed the orders of God.
I can envisage how your parents will feel being let down by someone they had spent their love, resources, time and energy looking after from childhood till you became of age.
Your defiance could be likened to a stab in the back and they must have been disappointed in you.
Repeated abortions could block your chances of becoming pregnant, especially at a time you may need a child. Therefore, the earlier you leave your boyfriend, the better it will serve your interest and safeguard your future.
It will be in your interest to go back to your parents like the prodigal son in the Bible and plead for mercy.
I have the belief that they will welcome you back.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
