He is not dependable

Published

4 years ago

March 26, 2022

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Having met the first time at a party and talked extensively, we exchanged telephone numbers and the conversation continued from there.

Like an interesting music which is played repeatedly, the lovely chats continued until we reached a stage where we could not stay a day without hearing a word from each other.

I thought things would continue the way it started but unfortunately certain characteristics showed their ugly heads and suspicion took the better part of us.

Within the period that we had been close, l discovered that certain movements and pronouncements he had made were not consistent with some plans we had agreed on for execution.

Unfortunately, a friend informed me that she saw my boyfriend at a particular spot with a lady and that was not the first time.

Luckily, l had spoken about him to this friend of mine, but he was not aware.

Three months later, my female friend informed me that the lady my boyfriend had been visiting was three months pregnant and the girl’s parents were very angry.

Though l have planned to pull out of the relationship, he has denied any knowledge of this girl’s pregnancy when l enquired from him. Should l go ahead or pardon him for the sake of love.

Ohene Nana, Accra.

Dear Ohene Nana,

You have to thank God for the information which has come at the time you are not pregnant, a situation which could have prevented you from severing links with this gentleman.

This guy could ruin your future if you continue the relationship with him.

Though you love him, forget about him since he can use tricks to win your love back.

Concentrate on whatever you are doing until you are ready to marry.

I don’t want to lose my girlfriend

Published

4 days ago

May 30, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young gentleman who is 25 years of age. I have been dating a lady for the past three years and I have plans of taking her to the altar.

However, there is a problem that threatens the love and bond that exits between us.

Growing up, I have vouched not to engage in any sexual intercourse with my girlfriend. But she seems to have an issue with it.

According to her, my decision makes her feel I am not truly in love as I claim . I must say that I am confused about the situation and I don’t want to lose her because I love her so much.

Thomas, Wa.

Dear Thomas,

First of all, there is nothing wrong with your decision to abstain from sex before marriage. True love is not only proven through physical intimacy, but also through respect, patience, understanding and shared values.

If your girlfriend truly loves you, she should be willing to respect your convictions just as you respect her feelings. It is important for both of you to have an honest and calm conversation about your beliefs, expectations and future together.

Let her understand that your decision is not because you do not love her, but because you value both her and the relationship deeply.

At the same time, try to listen to her concerns without judging her. Relationships survive when couples communicate openly and support each other’s principles. Never feel pressured to do something against your values simply out of fear of losing someone.

A healthy relationship should not force one partner to compromise their morals.

If the two of you truly see a future together, then patience, trust and mutual respect will help strengthen your bond. Stay true to yourself while continuing to show her genuine love, care and commitment.

I wish you all the best.

Obaa Yaa

My Dad won’t attend my wedding

Published

2 weeks ago

May 23, 2026

WeeklySpectator

My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.

Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.

I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?

Kwesi,

Suhum

Dear Kwesi,

Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.

You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.

If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.

Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.

Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.