Obaa Yaa
Can lost wedding ring spark problem in marriage?
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Dear ObaaYaa,
A close friend recently lost her wedding ring on a journey and some of us initially did not accord the problem the importance it deserved. However, having considered the tears which dripped from her eyes and the perspiration that had engulfed her made me feel sad about the incident.
This incident set me thinking about what might have caused her to perspire profusely when she discovered that her ring had gotten missing.
Though the bus in which we were travelling had covered some kilometres from where she suspected the wedding ring fell, she insisted to alight and our driver obliged to wait for her.
Thank God she found the ring at the place she suspected it might have fallen and the spontaneous joy that filled us on receipt of the news was quite refreshing.
Can the loss of this ring spark a problem at home since it was a mere accident?
Emelia, Accra.
Dear Emelia,
This column would like to commend you for sharing in the grief of your friend. Every human or married person in the right sense must be worried for the loss of a wedding ring.
Though the incident looks like an ordinary misfortune, it has different connotations which could be interpreted differently.
Additionally, the shedding of copious tears by this woman was to tell the world the sort of husband she had and the reaction which awaited her at home.
On the contrary, a discerning husband who is not jealous and understands issues will consider the problem a misfortune and would not hesitate to sympathise with the wife and quickly arrange to buy a new ring for her but the same cannot be said of other men.
Others will infer that the woman could possibly remove the ring to enable her to have an illicit affair and this will spark a serious quarrel which could lead to divorce.
A CEO visited his office and saw a man who was scrolling through his phone while sitting on a sofa.
The CEO asked, “What are you doing?”
The man replied, “Wasting my time until I’ll get paid.”
The CEO was furious, “What is your weekly salary!?”
Man, “$1000”
The CEO counted $2000 and gave it to the man, “Take this money and get out! You don’t work here anymore!”
The man silently took the money and left.
CEO walked up to the reception, “By the way, who was this guy?”
The receptionist said, “Pizza delivery”.
I didn’t understand why my father abandoned me as a child until he appeared recently and told me my mom placed a curse on him.
I was about thirteen or fifteen, my mom took me to the front of a big house and told me that is where I belong.
I knocked the door and the man sacked me from the house to go back to my mother.
Life with my mother was very tough until God came through for me to gain a scholarship.
Years later, I’d returned from abroad when this man walked up to me apologising.
I take care of him and provide him with everything. He needs my attention but I doubt if he will get that from me because he didn’t take care of me.
Jojo, USA.
Dear Jojo,
This is such a heart breaking story. No child deserves to grow up wondering why a parent was absent or feeling abandoned.
If your father’s explanation is true, the responsibility for leaving you still rests with him. A curse, fear, or conflict with your mother may explain his decisions, but it does not excuse abandoning his child.
Parents have a duty to love, protect, and remain present in their children’s lives, regardless of the problems between them.
Now that he has returned, it is reasonable to listen to what he has to say, but you do not have to accept everything without question. Ask him honest questions about why he stayed away for so many years, why he never tried to reach you, and what he hopes to achieve by reconnecting now. His willingness to take responsibility for his choices is more important than the explanation he gives.
At the same time, try not to carry the burden of your parents’ conflict. Whatever happened between them was their issue, not yours. You were an innocent child who deserved the love and presence of both parents.
If you choose to rebuild a relationship with your father, let it happen gradually. Trust is earned through consistent actions, not just words. If you decide not to have a close relationship with him, that is also your right. Forgiveness, if you choose it, should be for your own peace of mind, not because you are obligated to overlook the pain you experienced.
Most importantly, remember that your worth was never determined by your father’s absence. His choices reflect his decisions, not your value as a person.
The past cannot be changed, but how you respond now can help you find healing and peace.
