Obaa Yaa
She must leave my house
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When l was successfully delivered of my son, my husband and l saw the need to look for a house help to assist in the performance of the domestic chores to relieve me of the workload at home.
l understood him because the decision was taken in my interest and to provide me with some time to rest when less busy.
When the house help finally settled down in the house, she started wearing mini-skirts, transparent dresses and sometimes partially exposing her breast through her dress.
I did not hesitate to draw her attention to the fact that l was against her dressing so she must change.
Though l have served her this notice, she has refused to comply and continue to dress the way l have cautioned her against.
This lady is the type who is capable of meddling in matters which do not concern her.
A friend of mine who met her in town a couple of times has suggested that l should expel her from the house in order to save my marriage. She said l should not blame anyone if she succeeds in snatching my husband from me.
My husband has disagreed to my suggestion that the lady should leave the house because it is difficult getting house helps these days.
What should l do?
Nancy, Ablekuma, Accra
Dear Nancy,
I would like to commend you for your vigilance and for taking pains to study the nitty-gritty of what happens in your house.
Be reminded of the saying that “actions speak louder than words.” The details you have identified and the observation of your friend all point to the danger lurking in your backyard and immediate steps must be taken to address it before it gets out of control.
You can only save your marriage by ensuring that this lady leaves your house for good. However, if you delay, you would have yourself to blame.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.
Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.
By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.
He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.
I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.
Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.
Paulina,
Dodowa.
Dear Paulina,
THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.
That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.
And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.
However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.
Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.
My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.
My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.
He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.
Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.
Please advise me.
Emefa,
Sogakope.
Dear Emefa,
Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.
Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.
You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.
However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.
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