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Be our best all time to make it a habit
Perhaps most of us give way at times to actions, attitudes and utterances which we well know are below our best. But whenever we depart from being at our best, we must remember that there are at least two things for which we are constantly accountable: One is the effect our attitudes and actions have on us, and the other is the effect our attitudes and actions have on others.
Especially should we be mindful of the effect of our actions and utterances on young and impressionable people. By the time we have become adults, we ourselves may have acquired a solid set of standards from which we may feel that there is not much danger of departing very far, and to which even if we do depart, it may seem rather easy to return—and we may think that occasional small lapses and laxities won’t matter too much.
But while these occasions or periods of letting down may for us be only passing departures, the impressions we implant in others may be permanent. Many a man who has said and done things that didn’t seem to him to change his own well-settled standards and basic beliefs has found that the example of his words and his ways has changed his children and may have led them to permanent departures.
Of course, we may presume privileges which we suppose belong to our years: We may presume that it is all right for us who are older to say and to do things that those who are younger, shouldn’t say and do. But even supposing that we ourselves could, on occasion, stray somewhat (but not too far, we think) from our standards and principles, or from our most acceptable selves, without seeming to hurt ourselves very much, even if it didn’t hurt us (which is doubtful), still we must be mindful of the effects of what we do and say on others, because other people are influenced as much by us when we are at our worst as they are when we are at our best.For this reason, if for no other, it is important to be at our best.
“Rip Van Winkle, in Jefferson’s Play, excuses himself for every fresh dereliction by saying, ‘I won’t count this time!’ Well, he may not count it; and a kind heaven may not count it, but it is being counted nonetheless. Down among his nerve cells and fibres, the molecules are counting it, registering and scoring it up to be used against him when the next temptation comes. Nothing we ever do is in strict scientific literalness wiped out.” These are the words of the celebrated psychologist and philosopher, William James. And he adds: “Could the young but realise how soon they will become … walking bundles of habits, they would give more heed to their conduct …. We are spinning our own fates, good or evil . Every smallest stroke of virtue or of vice leaves its never so little sear … We are … imitators and copiers of our past selves.” (William James, The Law of Habits)
But our habits, good or bad, weren’t always habits. What we now do habitually we once did first, and then again and then again. And since we become “slaves to our own past performance,” we had better be particular about the first performance, because almost anything done once could become a habit, and obviously the reason we have bad habits is because we did the first time what shouldn’t have been done at all. This may seem to offer little comfort to those who already have habits they want to be rid of.
Fortunately, however, bad habits aren’t hopeless. But it takes more effort to get out of a rut than it does to get in and sometimes the only way to get out is to get out all at once. And sometimes the best way to leave bad habits behind is simply to leave them behind without lingering or looking back. The break has to come sometime. Sometime has to be the last time. And it isn’t likely to be any easier later, because habits, like ruts, dig more deeply with time even though at first we may think of them as trifles as something we can start or stop or take or leave whenever we want to.
An ancient philosopher had something to say on this subject. He once rebuked a person for engaging in a gambling game. And when the person protested that lie had only played for a “trifle,” Plato replied: “The habit is not a trifle.” No potentially potent thing is a “trifle.” And the best time to break a bad habit is before the first time. The next best time is NOW: before the next time.
By Samuel Enos Eghan
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Abu Trica’s extradition case: Prophets, fetish priests demand pay for spiritual solution …Lawyer reveals
Mr Oliver Barker-Vormawor, a lawyer for embattled Frederick Kumi, affectionately called Abu Trica and has made a shocking revelation over the behaviour of some members of the clergy.
According to him in a post on social media, the difficult part of Abu Trica’s trial is not the law but the number of ‘Men of God’ and fetish priests demanding financial sacrifices to help resolve the matter spiritually.
Oliver Barker-Vormawor posted on Tuesday, April 22, 2026, “The most difficult part about the Abu Trica case; is not the law.”
He continued: “It is the number of, prophetesses, evangelists and fetish priests, who have called or messaged to ask us to pay for spiritual solutions.”
It would be recalled that in March this year, the Gbese District Court dismissed a preliminary objection filed by Abu Trica, challenging the extradition proceedings initiated at the request of the United States.
The court, presided over by Anna Akosua Appiah Gottfried Anaafi Gyasi, in its ruling held that the offences forming the basis of the extradition, particularly wire fraud, constitute extraditable offences under the 1931 treaty between Ghana and the United States.
He was then given 15 days counting from March 27 to appeal the decision of the court or be surrendered for extradition to the US.
Against this backdrop, he was on Tuesday, April 22, granted a bail in the sum of GH¢30,000,000 by an Accra High, pending the appeal of his extradition
Mr Kumi was arrested in Ghana in December 2025 following an indictment by United States authorities, alleging that he played a role in a romance scam network that defrauded elderly American victims of more than $8 million.
By Edem Mensah-Tsotorme
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From panic to pass: how parents, teachers can help children beat BECE, WASSCE exam phobia- Part 1
Walk through any Junior High or Senior High compound in Ghana as BECE or WASSCE approaches and you will see it.
A bright girl suddenly quiet. A boy who led class debates now sleeping at his desk. A Form three student with stomach pains every Monday morning.
This is not laziness. This is academic stress. When left unaddressed, it hardens into exam phobia-overwhelming dread that pushes children into burnout, avoidance, and sometimes silence.
As a mental health professional who sits with these children and their parents at Counselor Prince & Associates Consult (CPAC) in Adenta Oyarifa-Teiman, I see the pattern clearly.
Research confirms it. Putwain and Daly (2014) found that high test anxiety predicts lower grades independent of ability. Zeidner (1998) showed that chronic academic pressure raises cortisol, weakens memory recall, and increases school dropout risk. The brain under fear cannot retrieve what it studied.
Understanding the storm: What academic stress really looks like
Exam phobia is not just “being nervous.” It shows up as headaches before mocks, sudden anger when books are mentioned, night-time insomnia, or perfectionism that ends in blank scripts.
Some children over-study until 2 a.m. and forget everything by 9 a.m. Others avoid books completely, scrolling phones instead. Both are distress signals. Dr Kenneth Ginsburg, a paediatrician specialising in adolescent resilience, notes: “Stress is not the enemy; feeling alone with stress is.” Too many Ghanaian children feel alone with it.
The home front: How parents and couples become safe havens, not extra pressure
The first antidote is at home. Structure beats shouting. Set a predictable study slot-same time, same place, with water and a light snack. Then protect sleep like you protect school fees. A tired brain fails faster than an unprepared one. Use the “15-minute start rule”: “Just sit for 15 minutes. If you still can’t, we close and try after a walk.” Often, starting is the hardest part.
Couples must watch their language. “Don’t disgrace us” plants fear. Replace it with “We see your effort. What part feels hardest today?” Praise process, not only position: “You revised three topics and asked for help—that is maturity.” Research by Dweck (2006) confirms that process praise builds resilience while outcome praise increases anxiety.
For caregivers, check your own anxiety. Children borrow our nervous system. If BECE makes you panic, they will panic. One parent grounds—keeps meals, prayer, and bedtime steady. The other pivots—talks to teachers, adjusts timetables, arranges counselling. Both protect rest. An empty cup cannot pour calm.
Resources
– Counsellor Prince & Associates Consult (CPAC): Award-winning Clinical Mental Health and Counselling Facility, accredited by the Ghana Psychology Council.
– School-Based Support: Speak to Guidance & Counselling units, or licensed school counsellors. E.g. Counsellor Blessing Offei – 0559850604 (School Counsellor).
– Contact CPAC for Parent Coaching/Counselling & Student Therapy: 055 985 0604 / 055 142 8486
