Obaa Yaa
How do I convince my upset daughter
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Just before my husband’s trip, we tried to squeeze in a quick moment of intimacy. Our children were preoccupied – one was playing outside, and the other was napping.
We didn’t lock the door, thinking it would be a brief encounter. But our 12-year-old walked in on us, which was embarrassing.
We immediately stopped and debated who should talk to her first. Meanwhile, my neighbour called, concerned that our daughter seemed upset after trying to talk to us but we were busy.
We had a heart-to-heart talk with her, explaining that our love for each other is natural. However, she didn’t respond and seemed distant.
Now, with my husband away, I feel uncomfortable around our daughter, who has become quiet and withdrawn.
Will things get better?
Asabea,
Takoradi.
Dear Asabea,
I SUGGEST you give your daughter some time. It is natural for her to feel how she is feeling, especially if it’s her first time seeing such a thing.
It could be that she might be feeling guilty and traumatised for ruining your moments.
However, I will suggest you always lock your doors when you’re about to have an intimacy.
Please teach your children how to respect privacy.
They should knock before entering other people’s rooms.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
