Obaa Yaa
My wife is lazy in bed
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 40 -year old married and a business man living at Kasoa. My wife, who is 32-years-old, is very supportive and kindhearted.
The only problem is that she is lazy in bed and that is making me lose interest in her.
My wife complains about any position during sex and keeps telling me that my sex drive is too high.
We have been counselled several times by our pastor and families but still no improvement.
I am worried that I might cheat on her. Please what should I do?
Addo, Kasoa.
Dear Addo,
Sex forms an important part of marriage life and should not be played with. In marriage, if this aspect is not handled well, it results in serious problems.
It is important to note that husbands and wives have individual differences and tastes which they must identify and be tolerant in helping each other to overcome those differences.
Since it is not easy to get a perfect match in marriage, you must work out modalities to meet each other half-way in your sex life so that each person will be satisfied.
It is better to accommodate the shortcomings of your wife than to cheat on her, which will eventually cause the collapse of your family.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
