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Signs of being unsatisfied in a relationship
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Are you feeling unsatisfied in your a relationship? Do you feel like your relationship has come to a standstill?
The tragic fact is that even though they are feeling unsatisfied in marriage or are in an unsatisfying relationship, a lot of couples choose to stay together and refuse to make any efforts to bring back the lost spark.
Sometimes one gets so used to being unsatisfied in a relationship and can’t even think of parting ways with a partner.
If you are unsatisfied in a relationship and feel happier without your significant other, it clearly means that there is something wrong.
The fear of being alone or abandoned may give you feelings of uncertainty. But you should always remember that it’s better to be on your own than to be unsatisfied in a relationship.
Unless you are in an abusive relationship, you must try to find ways to rejuvenate your relationship.
If you are indeed someone who feels unsatisfied in a relationship, here are some of the after-effects to look out for:
Short temper
Although it is true that every couple fights, the way it affects you surely explains why you are unsatisfied in relationship.
You’ll realise that you are acting in unhealthy ways. Instead of having a mature conversation, you often argue with your partner.
This behaviour can also start affecting your professional life. Also, brooding over issues, overthinking and uncontrolled anger are some signs that you are feeling extremely unhappy.
Lack of communication
If you and your partner often find yourselves in uneasy situations, then it means things are definitely going downhill. You find it hard to discuss the smallest of issues or prefer not telling everything.
You start keeping secrets and avoiding confrontations. Instead of feeling excited, your heart sinks when your partner calls or texts you. The simplest of activities start to feel dull and mundane. Maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship or you’ll start feeling even more terrible.
No trust
You’ll find yourself checking your partner’s phone history. Trust is the glue that holds any relationship together. Also, you might be questioning your partner’s behaviour or actions. It means that you need to re-assess the status of your relationship.
Without trust, there is no understanding. Gradually, there will be further deterioration, and ultimately causing the relationship to fall apart. Hence, you should talk it out or take action before the situation worsens.
Thoughts of being with someone else
Your partner might not be your soul mate if you keep on fantasising about some other person who in your view might be a better match. Also, you don’t feel comfortable with them.
If you have a specific person in mind who you believe would be more compatible, then it’s time to reconsider stuff. Your significant other is not the first person you want to spend your time with after a busy day at work or an occasion. You might start contacting your exes or feel curious about what’s happening in their lives.
This surely indicates that you are terribly unsatisfied.
TO BE CONTINUED
Source: https://www.marriage. com
Conflict at work is more common than you might think. According to 2022 research by The Myers-Briggs Company, more than a third of the workforce reports dealing with conflict often, very often, or all the time in the workplace.
Addressing a dispute might feel tense or awkward, but resolving the conflict is typically well worth it in the long run. Whether you are trying to mediate conflict between colleagues or are directly involved. Last week we looked at three and this week is the remaining four steps you can take to manage workplace conflict.
4. Find common ground
The best way to handle workplace conflict is to start with what you can agree on. Find common ground between the people engaging in conflict. If you are directly involved in the conflict, slow down and focus on results instead of who’s right.
If you are the mediator for conflict resolution between coworkers, observe the discussion and help point out the common ground others may not see.
5. Collectively brainstorm solutions
When deciding how to handle workplace conflict, it can be tempting to problem-solve on your own. Sometimes, it feels easier to work independently rather than collaboratively. However, if you want to achieve a lasting resolution, you will need to motivate your team to get involved.
Brainstorm possible solutions together, and solicit input from everyone involved on the pros and cons of each option until you settle on a solution that feels comfortable to everyone. This will help all team members feel a sense of ownership that can help prevent future conflicts.
6. Create an action plan
Once you have created an open dialogue around workplace conflicts, it is time to resolve them. Just like any other work goal, this requires creating a concrete plan and following through.
Create an action plan and then act on it. It does not matter what the plan is, as long as you commit to it and resolve the conflict as a result.
7. Reflect on what you learned
All conflicts offer an opportunity to grow and become a better communicator. Identify what went well and what did not.
Work with your whole team to gather learnings from the conflict so you can avoid similar situations in the future.
Today, I continue with my narration of personalities and their accomplishments as members of the Ghanaian Diaspora in Finland, with a focus on Mr Joseph Osei Amoah.
Mr Amoah is one of the senior members of the Ghanaian community in Finland and a top member of the Ghana Union Finland, an association of the Ghanaian migrant community in Finland.
He is an active and a well-respected person in the Ghanaian community in Finland. Mr Osei Amoah moved to Finland in the mid-1990s, and he has lived in Helsinki all this time.
Accomplishments and honours
It is important to recount accomplishments as part of the success stories of the personalities of Ghanaian descent in Finland in order to highlight their exploits both within the Ghanaian migrant community and in the wider Finnish society.
Mr Amoah holds a Master’s degree in Demography from the University of Helsinki. At the time he came to Finland in 1994, he had majored in Economics at the Bachelor’s level at the Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology (KNUST).
Sometimes affectionately called “Chairman” in the Ghanaian migrant community, Mr Osei is a former Chairman of the New Patriotic Party’s (NPP) branch in Finland, assuming office around 2015, a few months after the branch was formed, until 2019 when he did not run again for the elections. He helped to bring vibrancy into the NPP Finland branch.
Religious life
Mr Amoah is a prominent member of the Global Methodist Church in Finland. In spite of his busy working life and other responsibilities, he remains a committed member of the Global Methodist Church in Finland.
He plays a key leadership role in the church, which is attended by many Ghanaian migrants and other African migrants, Finns, and those of other nationalities.
His position in Asanteman Finland
Mr Osei Amoah is an outstanding member of the Asanteman Finland, where he is the Gyasehene, a prominent position as a sub-chief in the Asante (and Akan) royal hierarchy, in the functioning of the traditional authority systemgenerally in Ghana.
The Asanteman Finland is an association formed purposely with the aim of supporting each other as well as to ensure unity among its members and others outside of the group.
One of its top priorities of Asanteman Finland is to display the Asante culture in Finland. Mr Osei Amoah finds this as very important since by upholding the traditional culture and heritage, the association enables its members and especially the young ones to get the chance to learn and appreciate Asante and Ghanaian cultural values. They do this through rites such as marriage, the naming ceremony, and death and funeral rites, which makes the people to learn more of their provenance and not forget their origins.
“My point is that, by displaying the traditional heritage it helps people to learn more about their provenance. For, I think it will be embarrassing to go home and see that even the young ones have much knowledge about how to perform certain rites whilst those of us in the diaspora may be deficient in understanding those practices”, he argued. It is also very important for the young ones who are born in Finland to learn what the culture of their original society is, he continued.
The Finnish educational system
Mr Osei has a lot to say about the Finnish educational system, which he sees as very good. “When we came to Finland, education was free. There were library books and manuscripts readily available in the library, and one could print or make as many photocopies as possible for your studies. There was more flexibility. One could read books and write exams on them for the necessary grades in order to complete your studies”. In his opinion, Ghana could learn much from the Finnish system, which is one of the best in the world.
He said the only initial challenge he found in Finland was how to master the Finnish language, without which it was difficult to get a job befitting one’s status after the studies. But things have changed today and there are many English courses so it is easy to study and get a job that matches your studies, especially in the area of ICT, he said.
His role in the Ghanaian community
Mr Osei Amoah has been very active in the Ghanaian community, as I have indicated earlier. He is still very active in the Ghana Union Finland, and has played a leadership in many functions organised by the Union, as a non-governmental organisation for the Ghanaian migrant community in Finland.
Mr Amoah has been a counsellor and mentor who has guided many young Ghanaian migrants on their career paths and has also been part in settling various kinds of conflicts between opposing parties or persons. In conclusion, I would say Mr Osei Amoah has succeeded in embossing his name in the golden pages of visionary Ghanaians in both Sweden and Finland.
With Dr Perpetual Crentsil
