Obaa Yaa
Should we give up on our childlessness?
Dear ObaaYaa,
Our marriage which had received the consent of both families started on a good note which made us to be happy and excited. We were filled with optimism that things would be well after our honeymoon to enable us to enjoy life to its fullest.
Unfortunately, after two years of marriage, we discovered that the much sought-after pregnancy was not forthcoming. Initially, we presumed the delay could be as a result of anxiety and urging from families and friends.
During my wife’s first visit to the hospital, the doctor told her to relax since it was not too late for her to conceive. However, having waited till the seventh year, our patience was beginning to run out and frustration set in.
Several checks conducted at the hospital on both of us have proved that we were capable of giving birth, but it was inexplicable why the delay had persisted all these years.
Having waited almost 10 years in great expectation, we are beginning to throw our hands in despair and see how nature will treat us.
Within this stressful period, l had calls from relatives, friends and associates about the need to marry another woman in order to raise children for the family. In the same vein my wife also had many promptings and pieces of advice from those close to her.
I must indicate that my wife has taken different medications prescribed by different doctors but all to no avail.
As humans, the more we hear such promptings or urgings, the more disturbed we become and this is affecting our trust in God.
We are currently confused and not sure of what to do with our lives as a couple.
Daniel-Accra.
Dear Daniel,
Some couples have serious challenges in their marriages and it takes those who are prayerful, dedicated and spirit-filled to go through trials and difficulties and still remain united.
You ought to be commended for defying the urging from others butstanding by each other in these difficult times and hoping against hope.
The point must be made that you are not in this trouble alone since many are also facing similar problems in their marriages, but still moving along.
Having come this far, it is likely your doctor will prescribe other medications to help solve your problem. What you ought to do is to stick to the prescription of the doctor and you will be successful.
You can overcome your problem because l know of a couple who had stayed more than 10 years before the first pregnancy, and this was followed by two others in succession.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
