Obaa Yaa
Should l abort or what?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a final-year student in one of the universities in the country but unfortunately I am pregnant. Though we love each other and have planned to abstain from sex to enable us to complete our studies and have a memorable marriage in the future, we could not resist the temptation and the unfortunate has happened.
My greatest challenge is that our parents are poor and will find it difficult to support me through the period of pregnancy and weaning my child.
Secondly, the pregnancy is likely to prevent me from completing my studies on schedule. What should l do to save the situation?
Ama-Cape Coast
Dear Ama,
At your level, you knew the consequences of sex before you indulged in it. However, thank God that in a tertiary institution you cannot be expelled from school, as it is the case at the junior level.
Though poverty has emerged as your greatest challenge, you can still manage the situation and complete your studies.
It will not be easy but you must gather the courage to maintain the pregnancy. This could be the only child in your life and the probability of this man getting married to another person because you have turned barren is great.
You have no idea what this child would be and this could be a test for you, therefore, brace up and take the challenge.
Greetings
Ms Victoria Alando of the 37 Military Hospital. September 26 was your birthday and irrespective of the challenges of this world, God has been gracious and blessed you with another year. May God be glorified in your life and may you receive grace upon grace and may your heart’s desire be granted. Belated happy birthday.
From: Priscilla Juanita Yogtiba, your daughter, family and friends.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
