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What is the Bible and Quran saying about polygamy?
Recently there has been discussions about marriage specifically regarding the issue of polygamy and whether the Bible endorses it or not.
A WhatsApp video I watched showed an ‘Osofo’ justifying why he has more than one wife with quotes from the scriptures supporting his actions. Other pastors also have preached against polygamy also with quotes from the Bible and so which is the correct stand of the Bible?
Our traditional setting allows for polygamy and it is part of our culture but because it is part of our culture, does not mean the Bible endorses it?
When we go to the Muslim religion and therefore to the Quran, we see that the Quran does not forbid polygamy but wait a minute, there is a condition that when obeyed allows a Muslim to engage in polygamy but it is impossible to obey, hence Muslims who know their Quran well, abhor polygamy.
There is a historical background as to why our forefathers engaged in polygamy. In the olden days farming was the order of the day and because agriculture was not mechanised, it was labour intensive so it made a lot of sense to marry more to produce more children and therefore readily available labour to engage in various farming activities.
Now let us go into the Bible and examine whether the Bible endorses polygamy or not because a lot of people make the argument that the Patriarchs were all polygamous.
The first patriach was Adam and he had only one wife called Eve. The next patriach was Noah and he had one wife. The striking thing is that God did not instruct him to marry more than one woman even though he was going to destroy the entire human race except Noah and those in the ark, which should have been the logical thing to do so he can quickly replenish the population after the flood.
The next patriach was Abraham and he had one wife. Some will argue that he slept with Hagar and got Ishmael but the fact is that he did not marry her. Next was Isaac and he had one wife followed by Jacob who had more than one wife but his case is the exception and not the norm. He was tricked by his uncle into marrying a woman she did not love and so had to marry the one he really loved later on in addition.
David married more than one but check the problems that came his way and his son Solomon whose lust was way beyond normal. He too, just look at the problems he encountered.
In the New Testament the Bible is clear on marriage. It is one man one wife. It should be noted that the New Testament dispensation is where the whole world falls under in terms of how God wants everybody to live to please him.
The Old Testament was mostly specifically designed for the Israelites, the chosen people of God but the New Testament is for the whole of mankind.
In Timothy the Bible states categorically the qualifications of some desiring the office of a leader of a Bishop which among others include “…the husband of one wife…” according to 1 Timothy 3:2. Jesus, the Saviour himself, who according to John 1:1 was there at the very beginning of creation, in response to a question about divorce has explained that marriage was instituted by God and that it is one man one wife issue according to Mathew 19:4-5.
It is therefore quite disheartening to hear people who claim to be men of God declaring that the Bible does not speak against polygamy. What they ought to realise is that the word of God does not adapt to any culture rather it is the culture that must adapt to the word of God.
Therefore if your culture permits polygamy, you need to align it to what the Bible says and not the other way round. Out of ignorance, others out of desire for sinful pleasures want God to endorse what God’s word does not permit and go about deceiving people.
It is one man one wife, finito.
Laud Kissi Mensah
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After two weeks of hectic activity up north, I drove to the Tamale airport, parked the car at the Civil Aviation car park as usual, paid the usual parking fee and boarded the plane for Accra.
Over the last two weeks, I had shuffled between three sites where work was close to completion.
One was a seed warehouse, where farmers would come and pick up good quality maize, sorghum and other planting material.
The other was a health facility for new mothers, where they were given basic training on good nutrition and small scale business.
And the third was a set of big boreholes for three farming communities.
The projects usually ran on schedule, but a good deal of time was spent building rapport with the local people, to ensure that they would be well patronised and maintained.
It was great to be working in a situation where one’s work was well appreciated. But it certainly involved a lot of work, and proactivity. And I made sure that I recorded updates online before going to bed in the evening.
When the plane took off, my mind shifted to issues in Accra, the big city. The young guys at my office had done some good work. They had secured five or six houses on a row in a good part of the city, and were close to securing the last.
When we got this property, unusually, Abena greeted them casually, and appeared to be comfortable in the guy’s company.
I was quite disappointed to hear that, because until the last few weeks, it seemed as if Abena and I were heading in a good direction. Apart from the affection I had for her, I liked her family. I decided to take it easy, and allow things to fall in whatever direction.
Normally I would take a taxi to her house from the airport, and pick her up to my place. This time I went to my sisters’ joint, where they sat by me while I enjoyed a drink and a good meal.
“So Little Brother,” Sister Beesiwa said, “what is it we are hearing about our wife-to-be?”
“When did you conclude that she was your wife-to-be? And what have you heard? I’ve only heard a couple of whispers. Ebo and Nana Kwame called to say that they have seen her in the company of—”
“Well said Little Brother,” Sister Baaba said. “By the way, Nana Kwame called an hour ago to ask if you had arrived because he could not reach you. Someone had told him that Jennifer had boasted to someone that she had connected Abena to a wealthy guy who would take care of her.”
I was beginning to understand. For some time, Abena had been asking me what work I was doing up north, and after I had explained it to her, she kept asking. So I think Jennifer fed her with false stories about me in order to get her to move to the Ampadu guy. Jennifer must have been well compensated for her efforts.
“In that case,” Sister Beesiwa said, “you should be glad that Abena is out of your way. She is easily swayed. Anyone who would make a relationship decision based on a friend’s instigation lacks good sense. I hope the guy is as wealthy as they say?”
“Who gets wealthy running a supermarket chain in Ghana?” Sister Baaba said. “Our supermarkets sell mostly imported products. Look at the foreign exchange rate. And remember that Ghanaians buy second-hand shoes and clothes. Supermarkets are not good business here. Perhaps they are showing off that they are wealthy, but in reality they are not doing so well.”
“Amen to that,” I said. “I’m beginning to understand. For some time, Abena had been asking me what work I was doing up north, and after I had explained it to her, she kept asking. So I think Jennifer fed her with false stories about me in order to get her to move to the Ampadu guy. Jennifer must have been well compensated for her efforts.”
She said that David Forson was only an agricultural extension worker in the north who did not have the resources to take care of a beautiful girl like her. And apart from being wealthy, the guy comes from an influential family, so Abena had done much better leaving a miserable civil servant like you for him.
“Amen to that,” I said. “I’m beginning to understand. For some time, Abena had been asking me what work I was doing up north, and after I had explained it to her, she kept asking. We would be able to sell all five houses to one big corporate customer, and we had already spoken to a property dealer who was trying to find a buyer in order to get a good commission.
That was going to be my biggest break. I had asked the boys to look for a large tract of land on the outskirts of the city where we could develop our own set of buildings, blocks of storey houses and upscale apartments. Things were going according to plan, and I was quietly excited. However, things were not going so well regarding my relationship with Abena.
My buddies Ebo and Nana Kwame had called to say that they met Abena and her friend Jennifer enjoying lunch with a guy, and Ebo believed that Jennifer was ‘promoting’ an affair between Jennifer and the guy. They were of the view that the promotion seemed to be going in the guy’s favour, because only an agricultural extension worker in the north who did not have the resources to take care of a beautiful girl like her.
And apart from being wealthy, the guy comes from an influential family, so Abena had done much better leaving a miserable civil servant like you for him.
“As I’ve already said, I will stop by her place, but I will mind my own business from now. Hey, let’s talk family. How are our parents? And my brothers-in-law? And my nephews and nieces? Why don’t we meet on Sunday? I’m going to drop my bags at my place, and go to see Mama and Dad.”
