Relationship
Things to keep you from giving up on each other
From time to time, things may get a little difficult. You might not see a way out, and want to give up. You’ve been through so much and seen so much that you’ve lost the fight in you. But it is during these times that you need to find a reason to push through, because something significantly better awaits you at the other side of this situation.
Even if you think that you don’t have it in you to deal with something, and that nothing can be done, here are a few things that might be able to give you the push you need:
We all want things to be easy for us. And even though as tempting as it is, you need to make tough choices and live with the consequences. Be it any aspect of your life, the right thing to do will always prove to be the hardest.
In order to save ourselves from adversity, when the going gets tough, we try to convince ourselves that nothing should have to be this difficult. When in reality, nothing good ever comes easy.
You’ve made it this far
We’ve all had those days where you’re feeling so defeated that you’re entirely convinced you won’t be able to make it. Maybe if you reminded yourself that you’re seeing this day only because you’ve managed to live through such days in the past, you might have some hope. If you could get through them, you can surely get through this one as well.
Everything happens for a reason
If things aren’t going the way they should and nothing you do seems right, just remember that everything happens for a reason. Even if it doesn’t make sense in that moment of time, it will unfold eventually. Your choices, even if they appear to be wrong in the present circumstances, are setting you off in the right direction. You need to believe that everything will fall into place in due time.
Choose your response to pain
There is no escaping pain. Somewhere, sometime or somehow you’re going to be faced with it. Pain generally instigates negative thoughts, which in turn worsens the situation. You allow yourself to wallow in it and hence don’t even look for a way out since you’ve led yourself to believe that there isn’t one.
You can control how you process your pain. It may not be easy or quick, but it’s doable. Hold the negative thoughts at bay, focus on finding a solution instead.
keep moving forward
Be it one tiny step at a time, just keep moving forward. You can’t allow yourself to be stuck in the same situation just because of your fears. There is no reward without any risk. Believe in yourself, and make the difficult choices.
Don’t let anything hold you back
When you’ve finally convinced yourself to challenge yourself, don’t let any sort of setbacks keep you from moving forward. They are just minor hiccups. Sometimes you might not get it right in the first go, but you need to keep going. You alone have the power to hold yourself back and nothing/no one else.
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2. Set and meet expectations
Set expectations that are clearly defined and reasonably achievable. Be realistic with deadlines, and don’t overextend yourself or your team members. Ensure everyone is aware of the expectations and deadlines, so they can adequately prepare.
Discuss potential outcomes and consequences before starting any project or task. This way, everyone involved has a better understanding of what needs to be done and how it needs to be done. This will help prevent misunderstandings down the line.
Once expectations are set, work hard to meet those expectations to prove that you are a team player. When you meet deadlines, you demonstrate accountability and dependability. You show that you can be trusted.
3. Build trust
Strong professional relationships are built on trust and respect. To gain trust, you need to be reliable and trustworthy. Show that you can be relied upon by following through on your commitments and keeping your promises.
Be honest and upfront with others, even if it’s uncomfortable. Transparency helps to foster trust. When people trust you, they’ll feel more comfortable being open and honest with you. This leads to better communication which will further strengthen your workplace relationships.
Trust is only possible when all parties involved feel respected and valued. Respect your colleagues’ ideas, opinions, and feelings by actively listening to them and giving them the attention they deserve.
4. Express gratitude
Find small ways to express gratitude regularly. Even a simple “thank you,” or heartfelt compliment can make a big difference.
Showing appreciation for someone’s efforts or ideas shows that you value them and their work. When you express gratitude, you send the message that you care about them, which will encourage them to reciprocate and build a stronger relationship with you.
5. Take an interest
Take the time to get to know your colleagues. Get to know their personal interests, hobbies, and passions outside of work. Ask them about these things often and take a genuine interest in them. You will develop more meaningful relationships when you learn and listen to them talk about the things that are important to them.
Showing an interest in your colleagues not only helps build relationships but it also encourages collaboration and creativity. People who feel heard and respected are more likely to open up and share their ideas.
Easter is already in the air church plays, family trips to Kwahu, fish money count in Kumasi market stalls. But for some families, the season also sharpens a private pain: a teenager who hides his phone under the mattress, a wife who finds transfers to unknown numbers, a father who smells stale hotel soap on his son’s shirt. Sexual addiction does not announce itself. It steals trust slowly, then all at once.
I see it at CPAC intake rooms: mothers trembling not from anger but exhaustion, men blaming themselves for “raising him badly.” Here is what we know and what actually helps.
Research frames compulsive sexual behaviour less as moral failure and more as an intimacy disorder tied to anxiety, untreated trauma, and a dysregulated reward system (Giordano et al., 2021).
In Ghanaian homes, shame thickens the silence. Carnes (2020) found that structured family disclosure guided by a therapist raised treatment entry by 38 per cent. Grubbs et al. (2020) showed spiritual support lowers relapse risk only when paired with accountability, not preaching.
Name the behaviour without drowning the person
At our Adenta Oyarifa-Teiman office, I often ask a couple to write down one line: “I felt scared when I saw __; I need __.” Not “you are dirty,” but “I saw pornography at 2 a.m. on your laptop; I need us to meet CPAC on Thursday.” I remember Kofi (name changed), a car dealer from Spintex, sitting across me saying, “If I call him addict he will run.” We drafted a text instead: “Yaw, I love you. I saw Mastercard bills. I’ve made us an appointment. I’ll drive you.” He came.
Use Easter’s rhythm, not its sermons
The season’s power is ordinary belonging. Invite your son to peel yam for Good Friday soup; ask your husband to lead the family in a simple sunrise prayer at 6 a.m., phone left in the hall.
A Shai Hills walk, a shared taxi to church-these re-anchor a nervous system.
Invite, do not ambush. Then bind that belonging to a step: install accountability software that blocks explicit sites and sends a report to a trusted person, agree on weekly attendance at a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting, schedule therapy session with experts from Counselor Prince & Associates Consult – CPAC. Grubbs’ finding holds: faith helps when it carries accountability.
Build containment the Ghanaian way
Few Accra families have study rooms; rural families share one chamber. Make rules fit: “No phones in bedrooms after 10 p.m. -all devices charge in the sitting room.” Keep a single MTN phone for night calls. Agree on cash, not mobile money, for daily spend. For betrayed spouses, CPAC names betrayal trauma without gossip; the relief is immediate.
Parents need their own slice: a 20-minute walk, a radio prayer, a friend who listens. Empty cups spill.
City reality versus village reality
In Accra, you may afford an expert from CPAC and monitoring software. In Bawku, you may lean on CPAC’s online service or a community nurse, a well-trained and trusted pastor or imam, and a strict routine.
Both depend on three moves: containment, treatment, connection. I have watched both work.
Sexual addiction thrives in secrecy. It withers in small, repeated honesty. One week clean, one meeting attended, one budget table opened-these are Easter’s quiet resurrection.
At CPAC we do not promise miracles; we promise a plan. Some sons make tea safely again. Some husbands show receipts. Shame shrinks when families speak early, set boundaries, and bind to help.
Source: Field notes from Counselor Prince Offei’s practice in mental health, marriage counselling, and addiction support at CPAC.
References
Carnes, P. J. (2020). Sexual addiction and compulsivity: Journal of Treatment & Prevention, 27(1), 1-12.
Giordano, A. L., et al. (2021). Family communication in sexual addiction recovery. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 47(2), 312-327.
Grubbs, J. B., et al. (2020). Spirituality, shame, and compulsive sexual behaviour. Archives of Sexual Behaviour, 49(5), 1665-1677.
To be continued …
Source: REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI’s insights on sexual addiction, relationships, and mental health in Ghana. He is a leading mental health professional, lecturer, ADR Expert/Arbitrator, renowned author, and marriage counsellor at COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE)
