Obaa Yaa
She wants to come back
Dear Obaa Yaa
I am 28 and in my second year in a tertiary institution. Back in the second cycle institution, I fell in love with a young lady who I trusted so much. We did everything love-birds would do, exchange gifts, cards etc.
After completion, she has been showing strange signs indicating that she loves me no more. Anytime I call her on the telephone, she will say nothing but rather allow me to talk and talk and talk. She’ll say absolutely nothing.
As things were getting out of hand, I wrote to her but she never replied, so I decided to break up with her.
A few months later, I came into contact with this young lady, who for some time now has shown great interest in me. She visits me at home, even before she goes to school.
I have also developed some interest in her and now we do everything together.
But recently, my former girlfriend wrote to me and apologised for her behaviour.
She says she is sorry about everything; she even wants me to visit her in her house, something she kicked against previously.
Obaa Yaa, apparently, my former girlfriend wants a comeback and I still love her, but I can’t afford to lose my new girlfriend.
Please advise me.
Jojo,
Pokuase
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Dear Jojo,
IT should be easy for you to choose between someone who is loyal to you and someone who isn’t. But ultimately, a decision on this will depend solely on you.
It would depend on how far you’ve gone with the new girl and whether or not you’ve promised her marriage.
As for the old girl, beware of her. Kojo don’t buy the idea of someone going elsewhere for reasons known to her alone and come back to beg. You should be more concerned about her coming back into your life after disappearing.
If Obaa Yaa is to advise you on who to choose between the two, it will certainly be the new girlfriend.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
