Obaa Yaa
She must leave my house
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When l was successfully delivered of my son, my husband and l saw the need to look for a house help to assist in the performance of the domestic chores to relieve me of the workload at home.
l understood him because the decision was taken in my interest and to provide me with some time to rest when less busy.
When the house help finally settled down in the house, she started wearing mini-skirts, transparent dresses and sometimes partially exposing her breast through her dress.
I did not hesitate to draw her attention to the fact that l was against her dressing so she must change.
Though l have served her this notice, she has refused to comply and continue to dress the way l have cautioned her against.
This lady is the type who is capable of meddling in matters which do not concern her.
A friend of mine who met her in town a couple of times has suggested that l should expel her from the house in order to save my marriage. She said l should not blame anyone if she succeeds in snatching my husband from me.
My husband has disagreed to my suggestion that the lady should leave the house because it is difficult getting house helps these days.
What should l do?
Nancy, Ablekuma, Accra
Dear Nancy,
I would like to commend you for your vigilance and for taking pains to study the nitty-gritty of what happens in your house.
Be reminded of the saying that “actions speak louder than words.” The details you have identified and the observation of your friend all point to the danger lurking in your backyard and immediate steps must be taken to address it before it gets out of control.
You can only save your marriage by ensuring that this lady leaves your house for good. However, if you delay, you would have yourself to blame.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
